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My Dad has read a book from the perspective of an Autistic person.  He felt the person was making excuses for traits that would certainly get a Neurotypical.person into trouble but from the authors point of view a an Autistic person shouldn’t be made accountable. for them. What do you all  think? 

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  • The ONLY thing that seems to have improved for me after my late life diagnosis is that now I know WTF is going on, I can mange my relationships a little better.

    I now know that compared to most other people I am less "reliable" in soe things, and thus I can 

    1: stop promising things I can;t deliver,

    2: Accept responsibilty for and apologise for some of my more egregrious failings of "servce delivery" 

    3. Not accept bullying and marginalisaton, particularly off my G/F. As soon as I realised that I was NOT N.T. & therefore unlikely to change my basic nature very much, I offered her an "out" from the relationship on teh grounds that she didn't sign up for this. She's declined it several times now, so BUT she does seem happier and a lot more accepting of aspects of me that seemed "uncaring" before. I OTOH also try to be a bit nicer in my aspect and "own" my "bad days" a lot more. 

    Since my diagnososis I've only ever had to ask her ONCE "why are you ragging on me for somethng we both know I can't do very much about?" 

    People kinda understand once they realise that you are ARE constantly "up against it" in certain ways admn not just "taking advantage" (whatevr that actually means, in an autistic context)... 

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  • The ONLY thing that seems to have improved for me after my late life diagnosis is that now I know WTF is going on, I can mange my relationships a little better.

    I now know that compared to most other people I am less "reliable" in soe things, and thus I can 

    1: stop promising things I can;t deliver,

    2: Accept responsibilty for and apologise for some of my more egregrious failings of "servce delivery" 

    3. Not accept bullying and marginalisaton, particularly off my G/F. As soon as I realised that I was NOT N.T. & therefore unlikely to change my basic nature very much, I offered her an "out" from the relationship on teh grounds that she didn't sign up for this. She's declined it several times now, so BUT she does seem happier and a lot more accepting of aspects of me that seemed "uncaring" before. I OTOH also try to be a bit nicer in my aspect and "own" my "bad days" a lot more. 

    Since my diagnososis I've only ever had to ask her ONCE "why are you ragging on me for somethng we both know I can't do very much about?" 

    People kinda understand once they realise that you are ARE constantly "up against it" in certain ways admn not just "taking advantage" (whatevr that actually means, in an autistic context)... 

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