My husband is in his early 50’s. Since our Son was diagnosed with Autism he has realised he is probably Autistic or Neurodiverse too. I believe it’s effecting his mental health but he won’t get assessed for it as I believe he thinks it means there is something wrong with him and he’s family with think that too and maybe treat him even less well than they do now. Anyone been through similar or can offer any advice to him or me?
Welcome to the forums NAS75657 and I can definitely relate to your husbands situation. It was probably a couple of weeks ago it when I was hit by that particular lightning bolt. It certainly blew my mind and has taken probably a week or so to get my head around things. Even now I would say I am not fully comfortable with things. I had no understanding, real understanding of what Autism was and had to go through a big process to really start to understand things a bit better. I've read a number of books, watched some youtube videos, done quite a bit of reading. This has certainly helped me a lot to try and understand myself better and begin to think about ways I can improve my mental health. At this stage I am not comfortable in talking to doctors, psychiatrists, etc about deeply private things. Not sure I'm in a great position to offer any advice but for me its taking time, patience/understanding/kindness from my wife (something I'm very thankful for...even if I do grumble) and being better educated. Hopefully from there I can go on to try and rebuild things 
Welcome to the forums NAS75657 and I can definitely relate to your husbands situation. It was probably a couple of weeks ago it when I was hit by that particular lightning bolt. It certainly blew my mind and has taken probably a week or so to get my head around things. Even now I would say I am not fully comfortable with things. I had no understanding, real understanding of what Autism was and had to go through a big process to really start to understand things a bit better. I've read a number of books, watched some youtube videos, done quite a bit of reading. This has certainly helped me a lot to try and understand myself better and begin to think about ways I can improve my mental health. At this stage I am not comfortable in talking to doctors, psychiatrists, etc about deeply private things. Not sure I'm in a great position to offer any advice but for me its taking time, patience/understanding/kindness from my wife (something I'm very thankful for...even if I do grumble) and being better educated. Hopefully from there I can go on to try and rebuild things
