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Should I quit my job or try go sick?

Autismman

Hating my job isn’t the case, I hated it once and now I’m just numb and entirely uninterested because I feel I’ve been used up, had to push through impossible limitations day after day without anyone really caring about it. The managers I am under are pretty toxic and bring their dramas into work. The managers seem to think it’s ok to be in a bad mood or snappy towards people and excuse it by saying “I’m in a mood please watch out” half joking but they mean it. Some of them get into relationships with staff below them and it never ends well, they can’t keep it professional. I have raised these issues only recently with my boss but I just can’t see my own perception improving, money is zero motivator for me even if they offered it. What would you do?

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  • Autismman said:
    What would you do?

    2 options spring to mind

    1 - learn to compartmentalise and stop caring the way everyone else does. This probably will take some training.

    2 - start looking for another job.

    Autismman said:
    I have raised these issues only recently with my boss

    I hope you don't mind me being blunt but this is probably going to lose you your job and you will find yourself edged out over time.

    Since your boss is complicit in the behaviour and it seems systemic then you just became a risk to them - someone who may get them into trouble so a quite normal (for them) response would be to start making your job unbearable in the hope you break and do something stupid to qualify for gross misconduct or you just quit because you can't take it any more.

    I've worked in a few places like this and on the whole I got out as soon as I could.

  • in reply to Iain

    There’s a difference in the boss and the people I’m complaining about, I brought this up with the CEO directly via email, he had a more monitoring approach. But I am starting to feel too much water has passed under the bridge and the best thing I can do for me is to hand in my notice job or not because I can’t let my mental health decline anymore. I can only read actions and not words, what a mess ey

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    Autismman said:
    I brought this up with the CEO directly via email

    If the mangagers in question find out you are a snitch then they will find ways to make life more unpleasant for you would be my expectation.

    It is a challenge for us autists with our rigid moral compasses and it has caused me a lot of pain in the past.

    In your shoes I would be looking for a new job with some focus.

    Sorry to hear it is working out this way.

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  • in reply to Autismman
    Autismman said:
    I brought this up with the CEO directly via email

    If the mangagers in question find out you are a snitch then they will find ways to make life more unpleasant for you would be my expectation.

    It is a challenge for us autists with our rigid moral compasses and it has caused me a lot of pain in the past.

    In your shoes I would be looking for a new job with some focus.

    Sorry to hear it is working out this way.

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  • in reply to Iain

    I have got an appointment with health in mind in march on the phone for an hour. I’ve had a lot of therapy but it wasn't autism based nor did the psychologist I saw say anything about it 15 years ago or so. I wanted a definition of myself then and she wouldn’t do that and I don’t know why, she just said I was articulate among a few other things but the word autistic wasn’t mentioned. I mean it when I say I have ZERO fire in my heart, I’m like a little boy, that’s who I see when I look in the mirror.

  • in reply to Autismman

    My advice in your situation would be to get a therapist with strong autism support experience and work through the issues with them.

    As you get to know yourself the confidence will grow and I expect they can even help with assertiveness training for dealing with the idiots at work.

  • in reply to Iain

    I just haven’t got that instant full spirited confidence or self belief all I have is a need to get away from that place, I’m like a ghost walking the halls but I really will hate on myself for being lazy and not being strong enough, that voice inside your head that’s critical and unhelpful.