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To disabled for friendship?

Mac78321

So I was in a group on Facebook and I was talking to someone about trains because we shared the same interests in trains. Because of my disabilities, I was slow on replying and not saying much, Then I explained to the person that I had multiple disabilities, She asked what they were, (I'm ok with talking about them btw). I listed all of them and then she said, "Sorry to bother you". I wasn't sure what she meant and then she said, "You're too disabled and deserve better". I wasn't sure how to respond to that comment and then she blocked me on Facebook.

What just happened?

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  • Mac78321 said:
    What just happened?

    It is hard to pinpoint exactky what it was but based on the info you gave I think you went from sharing a common interest to making about you.

    If you have a list of disabilities which you disclosed then she probably didn't know much about them and if they sound like head stuff then that is a huge red flag for most neurotypicals.

    She would be scared to talk about them in case she said something wrong and probably saw you as less than a person. Her fault, her loss.

    I find it much safer to play down my autism and any other limitations early on in any relationship until the person I am speaking with gets to know me and finds the positives outweigh the negatives.

    I'm not saying this is good or bad - it is just a survival tactic that works for me.

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  • Mac78321 said:
    What just happened?

    It is hard to pinpoint exactky what it was but based on the info you gave I think you went from sharing a common interest to making about you.

    If you have a list of disabilities which you disclosed then she probably didn't know much about them and if they sound like head stuff then that is a huge red flag for most neurotypicals.

    She would be scared to talk about them in case she said something wrong and probably saw you as less than a person. Her fault, her loss.

    I find it much safer to play down my autism and any other limitations early on in any relationship until the person I am speaking with gets to know me and finds the positives outweigh the negatives.

    I'm not saying this is good or bad - it is just a survival tactic that works for me.

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