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To disabled for friendship?

Mac78321

So I was in a group on Facebook and I was talking to someone about trains because we shared the same interests in trains. Because of my disabilities, I was slow on replying and not saying much, Then I explained to the person that I had multiple disabilities, She asked what they were, (I'm ok with talking about them btw). I listed all of them and then she said, "Sorry to bother you". I wasn't sure what she meant and then she said, "You're too disabled and deserve better". I wasn't sure how to respond to that comment and then she blocked me on Facebook.

What just happened?

  • Mac78321 said:
    What just happened?

    It is hard to pinpoint exactky what it was but based on the info you gave I think you went from sharing a common interest to making about you.

    If you have a list of disabilities which you disclosed then she probably didn't know much about them and if they sound like head stuff then that is a huge red flag for most neurotypicals.

    She would be scared to talk about them in case she said something wrong and probably saw you as less than a person. Her fault, her loss.

    I find it much safer to play down my autism and any other limitations early on in any relationship until the person I am speaking with gets to know me and finds the positives outweigh the negatives.

    I'm not saying this is good or bad - it is just a survival tactic that works for me.

  • I do not use social media so have no idea how these things work but know that people can be very impatient. I too, am interested in trains and enjoyed seeing the sole working class 87 stop at Crewe recently as well as the new Avanti Evero's. Using the calm corner on the station was also a delight. Off to go and drive a class 47 on Train Sim 5 now.