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Hi All,

 Can anyone help me to understand some diffiulties my son with aspergers is having, he is participating in a drama project which is running for 5 weeks, he is in his 2nd wk now and seems to have been getting on ok until yesterday...he got stuck in the lift and was quite shook up about it, we talked it through last nite a few times and all seemed ok but this morning he wanted to leave the project. although this morning he was hungry..then wasn't, his clothes wern't right, everyone in the drama is now annoying, the leaders all pick on him....i was the worst person ever etc etc. When he eventually setteled he told me that he is always being told off for doing things in drama and he dosn't understand why. I know there are times he has told me i'm giving out to him for saying things in a cheeky manner or things that are cheeky but he dosn't seem to understand that they are. please help me to understand this so that i'm not confusing him anymore than he may already be and so that i can explain to the facilitators so they to will understand a little and hopfully make his life a little easier.

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  • Thanks Wolfbear and esra for your replies,

    i get so much from reading your replies, as much info i can get to help me to understand things from my sons perspective is greatly appreciated.

    Wolfbear everything you have mentioned sounds really good, i am going to work on the lift situation asap, although he is now mentioning it a lot less but i still think it hasn't completely settled. That’s a great idea about the fire department as when he does mention it he keeps asking how would he get out if we couldn't get him etc, he even talked about making a device that would help you escape if you got stuck. Yesterday he asked me would a lift ever explode as he watched one of the 'die hard' films months ago. so i am now understanding why this is going through his mind and other things will relate and influence his thinking. I'm guessing then that is why his previous teachers used to say when they were doing a subject like math’s he would put up his hand and talk about something completely different? 

    He loves fishing, a few weeks ago we went deep sea fishing and he had a great time...so did i, unfortunately i'm not so good at the hunting/fishing thing but i am willing to try. Fishing was all he wanted to do last summer but this year it is the playstation and one particular game called 'Call of duty' To be honest i'm not to happy with letting him play this game but it was because the boys in his class had it and i thought it would be something he could talk about with them and help him fit in, though now he talks about it from getting up in the morning to going to bed and it is as if everything he does is all in aid of finding a way to get playing. Do you think the gaming is a positive or negative thing? Thankfully his drama takes him out sociallising otherwise it would’ve been a lonely summer.  

    Going places especially in the morning is always a little difficult even if its somewhere he wants to go, for eg when going deep sea fishing he was getting all annoyed and frustrated when getting ready to go, is there anything i can do to minimise this in any way?

     

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  • Thanks Wolfbear and esra for your replies,

    i get so much from reading your replies, as much info i can get to help me to understand things from my sons perspective is greatly appreciated.

    Wolfbear everything you have mentioned sounds really good, i am going to work on the lift situation asap, although he is now mentioning it a lot less but i still think it hasn't completely settled. That’s a great idea about the fire department as when he does mention it he keeps asking how would he get out if we couldn't get him etc, he even talked about making a device that would help you escape if you got stuck. Yesterday he asked me would a lift ever explode as he watched one of the 'die hard' films months ago. so i am now understanding why this is going through his mind and other things will relate and influence his thinking. I'm guessing then that is why his previous teachers used to say when they were doing a subject like math’s he would put up his hand and talk about something completely different? 

    He loves fishing, a few weeks ago we went deep sea fishing and he had a great time...so did i, unfortunately i'm not so good at the hunting/fishing thing but i am willing to try. Fishing was all he wanted to do last summer but this year it is the playstation and one particular game called 'Call of duty' To be honest i'm not to happy with letting him play this game but it was because the boys in his class had it and i thought it would be something he could talk about with them and help him fit in, though now he talks about it from getting up in the morning to going to bed and it is as if everything he does is all in aid of finding a way to get playing. Do you think the gaming is a positive or negative thing? Thankfully his drama takes him out sociallising otherwise it would’ve been a lonely summer.  

    Going places especially in the morning is always a little difficult even if its somewhere he wants to go, for eg when going deep sea fishing he was getting all annoyed and frustrated when getting ready to go, is there anything i can do to minimise this in any way?

     

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