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Saying and doing the wrong thing!

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Hi All,

 Can anyone help me to understand some diffiulties my son with aspergers is having, he is participating in a drama project which is running for 5 weeks, he is in his 2nd wk now and seems to have been getting on ok until yesterday...he got stuck in the lift and was quite shook up about it, we talked it through last nite a few times and all seemed ok but this morning he wanted to leave the project. although this morning he was hungry..then wasn't, his clothes wern't right, everyone in the drama is now annoying, the leaders all pick on him....i was the worst person ever etc etc. When he eventually setteled he told me that he is always being told off for doing things in drama and he dosn't understand why. I know there are times he has told me i'm giving out to him for saying things in a cheeky manner or things that are cheeky but he dosn't seem to understand that they are. please help me to understand this so that i'm not confusing him anymore than he may already be and so that i can explain to the facilitators so they to will understand a little and hopfully make his life a little easier.

Thanks

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  • i all ways seem to say the wrong thing. to me it is not, because it is logical to me. my partners grandad died, when i was round my partners mums house. i said you knew he was going to die, now he is dead you dont have to worry. every one except my partner took offence to it. i do things all the time. sometimes i describe things to the doctor and he understands me, or so i think. he did understand what i said but i have not spoke right so he has not. people ask questions like how are you? or how do i look? i tell them the truth and then they are annoyed with me, because they expect me to lie. i hate small talk, or he said then i said conversations, i often tell them to speak to me properly or dont speak. they dont like it but i have told them if you want to talk to me you have to engage me, it has to be of interest and the truth. they find it interesting but i dont. i have got in trouble all of my life because of this, like pulling my socks up. or taking things litterally.

    i often dont want to say anything to anybody because i dont want to hurt people and i know if i talk long enough i will say something the other woll persuive as nasty. it is nasty that they think i am being nasty which can make me say something nasty.

    i sort of lost my point now.  but sometimes we dont say things because we think that if we do we are doing the wrong thing as we are here because we are meant to be so we do it. if we say something we are seen as nasty.

     

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  • i all ways seem to say the wrong thing. to me it is not, because it is logical to me. my partners grandad died, when i was round my partners mums house. i said you knew he was going to die, now he is dead you dont have to worry. every one except my partner took offence to it. i do things all the time. sometimes i describe things to the doctor and he understands me, or so i think. he did understand what i said but i have not spoke right so he has not. people ask questions like how are you? or how do i look? i tell them the truth and then they are annoyed with me, because they expect me to lie. i hate small talk, or he said then i said conversations, i often tell them to speak to me properly or dont speak. they dont like it but i have told them if you want to talk to me you have to engage me, it has to be of interest and the truth. they find it interesting but i dont. i have got in trouble all of my life because of this, like pulling my socks up. or taking things litterally.

    i often dont want to say anything to anybody because i dont want to hurt people and i know if i talk long enough i will say something the other woll persuive as nasty. it is nasty that they think i am being nasty which can make me say something nasty.

    i sort of lost my point now.  but sometimes we dont say things because we think that if we do we are doing the wrong thing as we are here because we are meant to be so we do it. if we say something we are seen as nasty.

     

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