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Damned with faint praise and praised with faint damns

TheCatWoman

I've told people about my plans to write a book and peoples reactions have been really odd, a couple of friends just totally ignored me, there wasn't even time for the tumble weed to start blowing across the hole that my disclosure had dropped into. Another friend has tried telling me what to write and finding bit and piece of information for me to include, none of which are relelvant to what I'm writing about. My Mum, son and step son are the only ones who have been encouraging, I don't get the negativity? Is it because I'm a working class older woman? Do they think I'm getting above my station in life and that people like me shouldn't do things like write, or would they be OK with me writing fiction rather than non fiction?

I didn't expect rounds of applause and street parties, but the lack of response is quite deafening, some who have responded have been very half hearted and I feel their responses match the thread title. Maybe because I'm doing it for pleasure rather than with any expectation of publication, people feel it's unimportant and not worth a comment.

Does this resonate with anyone else? I feel like theres some borderline hostility going on and it's really confusing me.

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  • Terrific! Good for you! I would celebrate anyone of most people I know who might begin to write a book, but I may be biased as your subject matter is of interest to me. I don’t know why your friends might respond negatively. Perhaps, the friend who suggested what to write was excited and just got carried away by your plans and wanted to be involved in your project, even if their material isn’t relevant. From what you say, it doesn’t sound as if the friend wasn’t supportive, but as a fellow autist, I’m not the right person to assess the reality of the situation. Sometimes it’s the people nearest us who discount plans to do a big project such as writing a book. Maybe they can’t understand how anyone can do something like write a book, that to them seems unobtainable, and on top of that, just be doing it for themselves. Your subject could be considered geeky and people could judt not know what to say. Hopefully, when you finish your book, they might respond differently. Are you going to get it printed out with a nice binding?  It would be interesting to see their response if they saw a tangible copy of the finished product.

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  • Terrific! Good for you! I would celebrate anyone of most people I know who might begin to write a book, but I may be biased as your subject matter is of interest to me. I don’t know why your friends might respond negatively. Perhaps, the friend who suggested what to write was excited and just got carried away by your plans and wanted to be involved in your project, even if their material isn’t relevant. From what you say, it doesn’t sound as if the friend wasn’t supportive, but as a fellow autist, I’m not the right person to assess the reality of the situation. Sometimes it’s the people nearest us who discount plans to do a big project such as writing a book. Maybe they can’t understand how anyone can do something like write a book, that to them seems unobtainable, and on top of that, just be doing it for themselves. Your subject could be considered geeky and people could judt not know what to say. Hopefully, when you finish your book, they might respond differently. Are you going to get it printed out with a nice binding?  It would be interesting to see their response if they saw a tangible copy of the finished product.

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