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What would make you happier?

I Sperg

When I wuz a nipper aged about 5 my dad asked me which of three things would I choose if I could only have two.

Out of Health, Wealth or Happiness, I "chose"  health and wealth only for him to suggest that without happiness what woudl be teh point of having the other two?

That kind fatherly lesson and correction to my thinking has helped me enormously in focussing upon what is, and is not, really important. 

Let's not kid ourselevs boys and girls we OBVIOUSLY want lashings of all three, but in the real reality, resources & qualities are scattered about unevenly, life is essentially UNFAIR, some of us are born into the wrong bodies (or even species!) but theoretically "Happiness" is an unlimited resource that merely needs to be accessed!

MANY of us it seems are unhappier than the majority and carrying the co-morbities that result from being really unhappy too in many cases. 

NOW before you all start getting political, (I know what you 'spergs are like, I is one myself!) this is more about thinking and sharing what would make YOU happier personally. 

If anyone wants to know why I am asking this, (some of you have found me untrustworthy I believe) I'm happy to explain, but for now I'm asking the question what would make you happier?  

  • in reply to TheCatWoman

    A lot of the stuff you state would make you happy requires that OTHER PEOPLE CHANGE THEIR BEHAVIOUR.

    I noticed this, because believe it or not, in some ways based on what I read of what you write you and I have shared values. (And some of the important ones too). 

    I hope my observation might lead you to also seek some happinesses that don't require the co-operation of other folk, to sustain you as you wait for the things you detail above to take place.

    Please accept my apologies for my way of communicatng, it reads a bit "patronising" even to me, which is not my intent, but I'm trying to show you something you may have not noticed, that may have been sabotaging your happiness for quite a while.

    I know "it did a number" on me before I adjusted some of my expectations to align closer to what reality usually delivers... 

    BTW, whenever I see your name here, I always briefly hope you've got that weird little electrical fault in your table lamp sorted out by now.. 

  • Having functional dopamine receptors would be a good start. Enough money to be able to retire and not to worry about it. 

  • I'm pretty happy now I've retired - it almost felt like I'd won the lottery.

    The only thing I can think of is a home that would suit me better. I rent a one bedroom flat with my partner, and it would be nice to have a 2 bed place with a private patio or balcony, in a quiet block in a peaceful area. But if wishes were horses, I suppose that one would be a unicorn.....

  • in reply to Take5

    People to actually listen to me instead of asking what I'd like or want or need then telling me what they think it means. To not to have to keep repeating myself to some lackwit with defective hearing and understanding, for people to actually read case notes, otherwise whats the point of having them?

    Less technology, it hasn't made things easier, it's made things more difficult as when it dosen't work nobody knows what to do, I spent ages stood in a queue at the pharmacy earlier listening to people complaining that they've not recieve thier meds, the pharmacy hasn't recieved the prescriptions and nobody knows what to do. I'm so glad that my surgery dosen't insist on this stupid method for ordering repeat prescriptions.

    To be able go out for a meal or get a takeaway that isn't going to make me ill.

    To be able to get clothes and shoes in my size without the heartbreaking hassle and bugeration.

    That will do for now but I could go on!

  • in reply to I Sperg

    I think more social contact, feeling that I matter to people, would make a difference to me but I concede that I might get all that and still not be happy.

    On a more tactical level I know that some physical activities can generate moments of joy - endorphins I suppose. Maybe if I could get back to doing such things regularly it would have a wider effect.

  • I would like to say happiness but I know that’s just an emotional response and it’s not something that’s constant. I know it’s not on the list but I would choose to be calm for the rest of my days. I believe that would help a lot towards health and probably throw a bit of happiness my way as well. 

  • A moderate private income that would allow me to follow my personal interests without having to worry about earning a living. 

  • in reply to Deleted User

    So., may I ask, what would make you happier?

  • I suspect this is greatly influenced by age.

    When you’re young, wealth is what you’re seeking.

    Later in life - where I am - happiness is what you seek.

    And towards the end of life, you’d give anything for health.

    What I can say is that while you need a certain level of wealth to make life work, it definitely doesn’t buy happiness.