I'm Tired

For me and I assume most others, school was the absolute hardest part, I didn't know I was autistic then, but the struggles I faced were huge. Social things mostly, academically I was great, but did badly as a result of the social nightmares distracting me from it.

All I can say is that it will get better, those people may seem important and their opinions and social groups feel like they're exclusive and you feel a bit out of place, but once it's over you realise they aren't. And why would you want to have friends that treated you that way? It's hard to  see it now, but as time goes on you'll realise that friends are people that are good to you and bring a positive to you life, the concept of being with the "in crowd" only exists at school and it's flawed. 

Everyone will be having their own issues, known or not, that whole tension based on the crazy social expectations makes it a melting pot of hormones, anger, stress and anxiety. Even the kids who aren't autistic/neuro diverse and seem to be doing ok , they will be insecure and cry themselves to sleep a lot too, some just hide it well. 

Autism has some great benefits and some great big issues, we don't get to be a bland manageable mix of "average " , we get to be at both extreme ends of the scale at the same time.  situations play on  this massively, life's about aiming to be in the situations that play to your strengths, especially when you're autistic.

Concentrate on being yourself , taking care of yourself and doing as well as you can for yourself, people will see that,  the ones that are worth having around will become your friends. You will not be alone there, you just need to find your "people". 

Anyway, I'll stop banging on, you just take care of yourself above everything else!

For me and I assume most others, school was the absolute hardest part, I didn't know I was autistic then, but the struggles I faced were huge. Social things mostly, academically I was great, but did badly as a result of the social nightmares distracting me from it.

All I can say is that it will get better, those people may seem important and their opinions and social groups feel like they're exclusive and you feel a bit out of place, but once it's over you realise they aren't. And why would you want to have friends that treated you that way? It's hard to  see it now, but as time goes on you'll realise that friends are people that are good to you and bring a positive to you life, the concept of being with the "in crowd" only exists at school and it's flawed. 

Everyone will be having their own issues, known or not, that whole tension based on the crazy social expectations makes it a melting pot of hormones, anger, stress and anxiety. Even the kids who aren't autistic/neuro diverse and seem to be doing ok , they will be insecure and cry themselves to sleep a lot too, some just hide it well. 

Autism has some great benefits and some great big issues, we don't get to be a bland manageable mix of "average " , we get to be at both extreme ends of the scale at the same time.  situations play on  this massively, life's about aiming to be in the situations that play to your strengths, especially when you're autistic.

Concentrate on being yourself , taking care of yourself and doing as well as you can for yourself, people will see that,  the ones that are worth having around will become your friends. You will not be alone there, you just need to find your "people". 

Anyway, I'll stop banging on, you just take care of yourself above everything else!