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Taking my beautiful son out for a day!

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Yesterday, we went to a wildlife park. Joel (adhd, asd, etc) has a new obsession, taking photos of animals. He was so focussed on this that he was totally unaware of anyone else around him! And the animals also included any pet dog on a lead! Sometimes you feel so alone and isolated. Not to mention, embarrassed! I want to shout at people who don't understand. Tell me how you all cope?

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  • Hi Shabunkin

    I have long since stopped flogging myself over the reactions of other people. Some will be kind and understanding, some will be cross and closed minded. That is more to do with them and not your child or you. You can't control people's reactions but you can protect yourself by controlling your own reactions. I always apologise and carry some little cards that I have written that explain about our grandson's condition. You can put as much or as little on them as you feel comfortable with. After a brief recounting of the facts my cards say that he is learning to cope with a world that he finds confusing and sometimes frightening and sometimes he gets things wrong. Then the card ends with 'please be patient'. They will either accept it or they won't. Usually people just read the first few lines and apologise if they have been angry.if they don't at least I know that I have done the right thing by trying to educate our grandson on what he should do instead of hitting and explained the situation to the parent with an apology. Then what I never do is to take the embarrassment home with me. I don't want my grandson to start worrying about being near others. So we move on. At the end of the day...remember that neuro typical children hit and kick each other as well! I wish you the best of luck.

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  • Hi Shabunkin

    I have long since stopped flogging myself over the reactions of other people. Some will be kind and understanding, some will be cross and closed minded. That is more to do with them and not your child or you. You can't control people's reactions but you can protect yourself by controlling your own reactions. I always apologise and carry some little cards that I have written that explain about our grandson's condition. You can put as much or as little on them as you feel comfortable with. After a brief recounting of the facts my cards say that he is learning to cope with a world that he finds confusing and sometimes frightening and sometimes he gets things wrong. Then the card ends with 'please be patient'. They will either accept it or they won't. Usually people just read the first few lines and apologise if they have been angry.if they don't at least I know that I have done the right thing by trying to educate our grandson on what he should do instead of hitting and explained the situation to the parent with an apology. Then what I never do is to take the embarrassment home with me. I don't want my grandson to start worrying about being near others. So we move on. At the end of the day...remember that neuro typical children hit and kick each other as well! I wish you the best of luck.

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