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Do you like christmas?

Kay

This is my least fave time of year.

My family consistently throw a big Christmas party and I'm sure they know it unsettles me but they still do it anyway. Loud music. Loads of people. A whole weekend of this and I'm trapped in the house. I like Christmas music if it's played quietly and the decorations can look nice but the busy city and large gatherings make it a really unsettling time for me and when my house is suddenly like it as well I get the usual sense of dread.

Yesterday my parents informed me this year there will be another party for me to endure. My dad says if I don't like it I could move. I will move out for definite when I can afford it, money is tight as I've only just got in to the workplace and my chosen job nursery assistant the pay sucks LMAO so for now I'm having to save and save and save to afford the finer luxury of escaping my parents house. Sadly despite my trying to explain about autism they don't get it. I'll be 25 next year and I'm hoping at some point then I'll be able to look in to renting an apartment, if I can afford Londons rather expensive properties.

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  • Can you stay in your room, or find a cheap B&B or premier inn or something for the night? My ex's family always had to have big family parties that I didn't like and nearly always found an excuse not to attend. I supose your family would say it's only for a couple of days and they have a right to do things they enjoy and they're right, but it's intensly uncomfortable for you.

    I like a xmas tree and always do one, I have loads of decorations that have lots of memories attached to them, like ones from my grandparents, ones that I made with my daughter and ones that just make us laugh. I love the cooking, but not so much the eating. I could quite happily cook xmas dinner for a dozen or so people with all the trimmings and boxing day left overs too.

    Other peoples xmas's can be a nightmare though, when to open presents is a big one and people get really upset about when someone does something different. I had a grumpy exchange with my then partners father about why I'd served up bread sauce, they didn't have it, I told him I did, I'd cooked the dinner and it was my xmas too, so he subsided into grumbling, but did enjoy his dinner.

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  • Can you stay in your room, or find a cheap B&B or premier inn or something for the night? My ex's family always had to have big family parties that I didn't like and nearly always found an excuse not to attend. I supose your family would say it's only for a couple of days and they have a right to do things they enjoy and they're right, but it's intensly uncomfortable for you.

    I like a xmas tree and always do one, I have loads of decorations that have lots of memories attached to them, like ones from my grandparents, ones that I made with my daughter and ones that just make us laugh. I love the cooking, but not so much the eating. I could quite happily cook xmas dinner for a dozen or so people with all the trimmings and boxing day left overs too.

    Other peoples xmas's can be a nightmare though, when to open presents is a big one and people get really upset about when someone does something different. I had a grumpy exchange with my then partners father about why I'd served up bread sauce, they didn't have it, I told him I did, I'd cooked the dinner and it was my xmas too, so he subsided into grumbling, but did enjoy his dinner.

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