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Should I live with my parents?

Lost0ne87
Hello I'am 26 years old with Asperger's, I used to live with my parents but i wanted to move out due to not getting along with my parents which was my fault. I was suffering with depression and still do. I do take medication which helps. I have lived away for about 3 years and i need support worker to help me do daily tasks like shopping and bill keeping. I am not severely disabled or anything like that but i do struggle with socializing, which is harder for me to find a job. With the cut backs happening I fear I will struggle a bit, finding a job will be hard (how hard i have not a clue) 

I'm thinking about the pros and the cons with living with my parents. 

Pros: 
*I can spend more time with my pets as i really like animals and cant keep any where i live as its rented. 
*Spend more time with my parents. 
*Much more freedom where they live as they have a pretty good sized garden and plus a allotments at the back. As my garden is only a small slab Smile 
*Financially help my mum and dad a little with bills (wouldn't take much gas and electric myself) and shopping.
*Help my mum with some furniture as some of hers seen there days. 
*My mum and dad are very understanding. 

Cons: 
*I can be a bit hard to deal with at times 
*My dad has personal issues which can be hard to cope with at times, especially at weekends Smile
*Not much freedom when it comes to playing my music at night, time get the headphones out.
*Seems a bit silly but the place is freezing during the colder times 

What are you're opinions, also would i and my mum be fianancaly better of or worse?? 
I hope what I typed makes sense as my English is pretty poor.
Thanks. Cool
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  • I agree with IntenseWorld there, once you've moved out it is difficult moving back. I was in a bad situation where I lived just over a year ago and had to move home. I'd lived away from home for 6 years, but I always had a flatmate, partly because I couldn't afford to live alone and also because I needed the company as well as someone to help me with certain aspects of living. I really enjoyed living away, I loved the place and I had more friends! It's been so hard moving home but I really had to, within the space of 2 weeks I pretty much lost my job (hours were reduced from 35/week to 12/week which I couldn't live on) my flatmate announced she had to move out and my best friend moved away and I just couldn't cope. I practically had a breakdown, had severe depression and anxiety and had no choice but to move home. It was hard, the massive change was difficult and I suddenly went from having friends, freedom and a social life to having no one, living in the middle of no where (and I can't drive). 

    Zem, I really understand your post, I felt competely the same way and as for the difficulty in being autistic and watching other people have fun social lives and long term relationships is really hard and depressing, I am 27 too and I've never had a proper relationship and it's been years since I even went on a date. i really don't know what to do about it and feel like I'll be alone forever. it isn't helped my living back at home either.

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  • I agree with IntenseWorld there, once you've moved out it is difficult moving back. I was in a bad situation where I lived just over a year ago and had to move home. I'd lived away from home for 6 years, but I always had a flatmate, partly because I couldn't afford to live alone and also because I needed the company as well as someone to help me with certain aspects of living. I really enjoyed living away, I loved the place and I had more friends! It's been so hard moving home but I really had to, within the space of 2 weeks I pretty much lost my job (hours were reduced from 35/week to 12/week which I couldn't live on) my flatmate announced she had to move out and my best friend moved away and I just couldn't cope. I practically had a breakdown, had severe depression and anxiety and had no choice but to move home. It was hard, the massive change was difficult and I suddenly went from having friends, freedom and a social life to having no one, living in the middle of no where (and I can't drive). 

    Zem, I really understand your post, I felt competely the same way and as for the difficulty in being autistic and watching other people have fun social lives and long term relationships is really hard and depressing, I am 27 too and I've never had a proper relationship and it's been years since I even went on a date. i really don't know what to do about it and feel like I'll be alone forever. it isn't helped my living back at home either.

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