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Should I live with my parents?

Lost0ne87
Hello I'am 26 years old with Asperger's, I used to live with my parents but i wanted to move out due to not getting along with my parents which was my fault. I was suffering with depression and still do. I do take medication which helps. I have lived away for about 3 years and i need support worker to help me do daily tasks like shopping and bill keeping. I am not severely disabled or anything like that but i do struggle with socializing, which is harder for me to find a job. With the cut backs happening I fear I will struggle a bit, finding a job will be hard (how hard i have not a clue) 

I'm thinking about the pros and the cons with living with my parents. 

Pros: 
*I can spend more time with my pets as i really like animals and cant keep any where i live as its rented. 
*Spend more time with my parents. 
*Much more freedom where they live as they have a pretty good sized garden and plus a allotments at the back. As my garden is only a small slab Smile 
*Financially help my mum and dad a little with bills (wouldn't take much gas and electric myself) and shopping.
*Help my mum with some furniture as some of hers seen there days. 
*My mum and dad are very understanding. 

Cons: 
*I can be a bit hard to deal with at times 
*My dad has personal issues which can be hard to cope with at times, especially at weekends Smile
*Not much freedom when it comes to playing my music at night, time get the headphones out.
*Seems a bit silly but the place is freezing during the colder times 

What are you're opinions, also would i and my mum be fianancaly better of or worse?? 
I hope what I typed makes sense as my English is pretty poor.
Thanks. Cool
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  • I think for me, I find it demoralising getting a worse deal than what I am used to. Because I am used to a nice house in a quiet area, and because my flat is not as nice in comparison (although I appreciate it is a lot nicer than many social tenancies), I feel rather disappointed. I know that everyone has to start off from scratch, and I probably sound ungrateful and a moaner, but perhaps it is harder because of my Asperger's: change is difficult, and it is far worse when what I had previously was better, I mean why swap a better situation for a worse one? I do get independence and a degree of control, but I lose out on a good night's sleep because of the noise levels.

    I support good quality council-housing, and I think more good quality housing should be built. The 'homes fit for heroes' were were better insulated than current stock, and most of them had nice gardens. Since the great sell-off, all we are left with in the main, is some fairly shoddy stock. It is now pot luck whether or not you will be allocated a nice Housing association flat or a shoddy one.

    And of course, private rented stock is often even worse quality.

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  • I think for me, I find it demoralising getting a worse deal than what I am used to. Because I am used to a nice house in a quiet area, and because my flat is not as nice in comparison (although I appreciate it is a lot nicer than many social tenancies), I feel rather disappointed. I know that everyone has to start off from scratch, and I probably sound ungrateful and a moaner, but perhaps it is harder because of my Asperger's: change is difficult, and it is far worse when what I had previously was better, I mean why swap a better situation for a worse one? I do get independence and a degree of control, but I lose out on a good night's sleep because of the noise levels.

    I support good quality council-housing, and I think more good quality housing should be built. The 'homes fit for heroes' were were better insulated than current stock, and most of them had nice gardens. Since the great sell-off, all we are left with in the main, is some fairly shoddy stock. It is now pot luck whether or not you will be allocated a nice Housing association flat or a shoddy one.

    And of course, private rented stock is often even worse quality.

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