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Should I live with my parents?

Lost0ne87
Hello I'am 26 years old with Asperger's, I used to live with my parents but i wanted to move out due to not getting along with my parents which was my fault. I was suffering with depression and still do. I do take medication which helps. I have lived away for about 3 years and i need support worker to help me do daily tasks like shopping and bill keeping. I am not severely disabled or anything like that but i do struggle with socializing, which is harder for me to find a job. With the cut backs happening I fear I will struggle a bit, finding a job will be hard (how hard i have not a clue) 

I'm thinking about the pros and the cons with living with my parents. 

Pros: 
*I can spend more time with my pets as i really like animals and cant keep any where i live as its rented. 
*Spend more time with my parents. 
*Much more freedom where they live as they have a pretty good sized garden and plus a allotments at the back. As my garden is only a small slab Smile 
*Financially help my mum and dad a little with bills (wouldn't take much gas and electric myself) and shopping.
*Help my mum with some furniture as some of hers seen there days. 
*My mum and dad are very understanding. 

Cons: 
*I can be a bit hard to deal with at times 
*My dad has personal issues which can be hard to cope with at times, especially at weekends Smile
*Not much freedom when it comes to playing my music at night, time get the headphones out.
*Seems a bit silly but the place is freezing during the colder times 

What are you're opinions, also would i and my mum be fianancaly better of or worse?? 
I hope what I typed makes sense as my English is pretty poor.
Thanks. Cool
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  • Your post could almost be describing me. I am the same age as you, have Asperger's and a support package, and nominally live 'independently' in a Housing Association rented flat. I have lived in the flat for almost two years, with 16 hours of support a week to help with shopping, bill paying, etc., but am seriously considering moving back into my parents; if I have the option, which I am not sure about.

    My flat is by a busy road, can be noisy at night with cars and students (it is near a University), and even though my neighbour is hardly an excessively noisy one most of the time, her everyday noise makes me very stressed.

    My parent's house, where I have lived since I was 7, is in a quiet residential area, has a nice garden (my flat has a small patch but with hardly any privacy), and is in a nicer area.

    I am afraid I can't offer you any advice, only I know what this predicament is like, and it hard moving from a nice respectable semi into a social housing flat with paper thin walls. Climbing down the social ladder is very hard psychologically, and leads to feelings of resentment,guilt and blame. If I did not have Asperger's I would likely have a good job by now, and would likely have more choice.

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  • Your post could almost be describing me. I am the same age as you, have Asperger's and a support package, and nominally live 'independently' in a Housing Association rented flat. I have lived in the flat for almost two years, with 16 hours of support a week to help with shopping, bill paying, etc., but am seriously considering moving back into my parents; if I have the option, which I am not sure about.

    My flat is by a busy road, can be noisy at night with cars and students (it is near a University), and even though my neighbour is hardly an excessively noisy one most of the time, her everyday noise makes me very stressed.

    My parent's house, where I have lived since I was 7, is in a quiet residential area, has a nice garden (my flat has a small patch but with hardly any privacy), and is in a nicer area.

    I am afraid I can't offer you any advice, only I know what this predicament is like, and it hard moving from a nice respectable semi into a social housing flat with paper thin walls. Climbing down the social ladder is very hard psychologically, and leads to feelings of resentment,guilt and blame. If I did not have Asperger's I would likely have a good job by now, and would likely have more choice.

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