Published on 12, July, 2020
This is something I really struggle with. If i see something I disagree with, then I am almost compelled by my sense of ethics to try and correct it. I see many others who take a different attitude and they are probably happier than I am. As they are not involved in constant debates.I think ultimately this is just my personality now and I cannot change it. I just wondered if anyone else has anything to say on this subject?
Maybe you could ask yourself why you need to be correct, why the point of view of others is wrong, Im not talking about things that we all know are wrong, like child abuse, but things that inhabit a grey area, like religion, politics, how we pack our shopping or what pegs we use to hang our clothes on the line?
It all sounds very uncomfortable, you must be in an almost constant state of anxiety about ordinary things being done "wrong"?
I understand that it your opinion that politics and religion inhabit a grey area but this is not an opinion shared by everyone. Who's to say you are right and other people are wrong?
You can challenge, but at some point you're going to have to accept that other people are entitiled to be different, even wrong. There are some arguements or people who I just don't discuss anything with as I know there will be an arguement and I'm going to come away feeling disgruntled even if I've "won", life to short for that sort of aggravation.
It might help us all to understand better if you gave an example of the things you feel you have to correct people about? Aside from religion and politics there are lots of things that people feel strongly about, my friends husband can't cope with clothes pegs being different, lots of people feel disconcerted by different pegs on the same garment, but he feels that there should only be one type of peg in the world. If he see's washing hung up with different pegs he has to go and rehang everything after sorting out all the pegs they own. It drives my friend crazy, but she just accepts that it's part of who he is and lets him get on with it and comes on a dog walk and has a minor rant at us about it.
There are lots of things to get upset about in the world and you can't fight every battle, you have to pick the ones that most important to you. There's also a huge difference between discussing and correcting someone, or making a suggestion. I've had to bite my tongue and sit on my hands loads of times to stop myself from interfearing because someone's doing something "the wrong way".