club politics

Not sure how to handle this one, so advice needed.

My son is an active member of his local sports club.  Recently the club ran elections for various roles and he decided to run for junior fund  raiser.  He was pretty confident he would get the role as his competitors did not appear to have the same level of backing.  Unfortunately he did not get the post.  But he won't leave it at that.  Having spoken to other club members he has worked out that if they are telling the truth he would have won by a landslide. Even the senior members say they don't understand what happened and he should have won.

So now he believes that a) those that said they voted for him lied or b) he did get enough votes but the club did not feel he was right for job, possibly because he has asc.

He wants to get to the bottom off this, but I know that if either or both off these are true, he will be devastated and he may leave the club and his trust in people will hit an all time low.

Any suggestions on how to deal with this.

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  • But that's tactless, not tactful.  The tactful answer would be: "No, because I have promised Joe Bloggs already that I will vote for him" or "No, because I have already voted for someone else, sorry" or "I'm not sure yet, I can't make any promises as lots of people want my vote" or all sorts of other reasons.  Sometimes, although I hate lies, little lies can help avoid hurting someone.  And that's coming from an Aspie!

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  • But that's tactless, not tactful.  The tactful answer would be: "No, because I have promised Joe Bloggs already that I will vote for him" or "No, because I have already voted for someone else, sorry" or "I'm not sure yet, I can't make any promises as lots of people want my vote" or all sorts of other reasons.  Sometimes, although I hate lies, little lies can help avoid hurting someone.  And that's coming from an Aspie!

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