club politics

Not sure how to handle this one, so advice needed.

My son is an active member of his local sports club.  Recently the club ran elections for various roles and he decided to run for junior fund  raiser.  He was pretty confident he would get the role as his competitors did not appear to have the same level of backing.  Unfortunately he did not get the post.  But he won't leave it at that.  Having spoken to other club members he has worked out that if they are telling the truth he would have won by a landslide. Even the senior members say they don't understand what happened and he should have won.

So now he believes that a) those that said they voted for him lied or b) he did get enough votes but the club did not feel he was right for job, possibly because he has asc.

He wants to get to the bottom off this, but I know that if either or both off these are true, he will be devastated and he may leave the club and his trust in people will hit an all time low.

Any suggestions on how to deal with this.

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  • I think we can be sure of one thing that your son is a valuable member of the club and will be valued by many of the members. It is very easy to think or feel that our value is because of what we do but certainly in a club that is not true. 

    Your son may not find that easy to understand yet. Are there people in the club that can reinforce that view and make him feel valued despite his disapointment. 

    It would be lovely to learn these lessons in life without the knocks and we wish it didn't have to be that way but I suspect it cannot be avoided.

    It's tough for you as well and our thoughts are with you too.

    Dunk

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  • I think we can be sure of one thing that your son is a valuable member of the club and will be valued by many of the members. It is very easy to think or feel that our value is because of what we do but certainly in a club that is not true. 

    Your son may not find that easy to understand yet. Are there people in the club that can reinforce that view and make him feel valued despite his disapointment. 

    It would be lovely to learn these lessons in life without the knocks and we wish it didn't have to be that way but I suspect it cannot be avoided.

    It's tough for you as well and our thoughts are with you too.

    Dunk

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