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D'You Know What I Mean?

Autistic Not Alien

It's a crazy situation, but all I need is clarity and peace, and yet I’ve been constantly misunderstood throughout my life. I thought that always choosing my words carefully would mean mutual harmony. Nope. I’m autistic, and it often feels like I’m speaking and writing in a different language to the one neurotypical people are using.

I've posted a video about communication/miscommunication in the usual place. Let me know your thoughts if you have a spare few minutes.

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  • I really relate to your post. I have spent most of my adult life heavily masking, being the person I believed I was expected to be in each social situation rather than the person I actually am to the point where I lost track of who I actually was.

    I still mask a bit but much less than I used to. My view now is that that people who genuinely care about me will like the real me and anyone who doesn't isn't worth having in my life in the first place. Having said that I still struggle with trying not to mask and live up to social expectations every day. It's a very up and down thing for me

    I enjoyed the Oasis reference in your title. To quote another Oasis lyric that resonates with us "I need to be myself, can't be no one else!" 

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  • I really relate to your post. I have spent most of my adult life heavily masking, being the person I believed I was expected to be in each social situation rather than the person I actually am to the point where I lost track of who I actually was.

    I still mask a bit but much less than I used to. My view now is that that people who genuinely care about me will like the real me and anyone who doesn't isn't worth having in my life in the first place. Having said that I still struggle with trying not to mask and live up to social expectations every day. It's a very up and down thing for me

    I enjoyed the Oasis reference in your title. To quote another Oasis lyric that resonates with us "I need to be myself, can't be no one else!" 

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