Are you all supremely confident that you're intelligent

We have to seriously ask ourselves, what do other people think of us and what is their opinions of us? The opinions of other people is the only thing that matters, in the infinite wisdom of everyone else - we also have to ask ourselves, what will a certain course of action lead to? For those of us with autism, hard though it is, because their mindsets and opinions of us will never change, we have to accept and obey their opinion that we do not understand that we are wrong in every situation and circumstance by default and by reason of our autism - bullies always win and are always rewarded for thier bullying behaviour in my own lived experience, because this is simply the reality of the world around us and the more things change, the more things stay the same, it is what is is - a lifetime of bullying has taught me these harsh lessons of reality because at the end of the day, we do not have a leg to stand on, in their world - much of this has been enabled by the democratic process and by democracy itself, which I’ve come to realise and accept that we would have more real and tangible freedoms under a dictatorship, autocracy, absolute rulership, martinet rule etc - within such a system, we would have clearly and much more honest and transparent boundaries and within that framework, compared to a democratic system, we would have far more leverage and freedom to live our lives how we want without restriction 

IrishInManchesterUK said:

bullies always win and are always rewarded for thier bullying behaviour in my own lived experience,

I've explored this subject over a decade or two in my youth.

I've played several roles:

Victim (mainly),

Perpetrator ( for a few years, but found it unsatisfyng),

Observer (infuriating),

Overt "nemesis" (leads to social isolation bigtime)

Covert nemesis/saboteur (very satisifying indeed on some levels, but coorrosive to your soul).

And finally I settled on:

S.E.P. (Someone else's problem, I'll ignore it for as long as possible, and if I can't, after perfoming a risk asessment, it's fight or fllght time..)    

For many of us, even before we were diagnosed, we were always deemed by others to be wrong by default because as children we were meant to be “seen and not heard” - after we were diagnosed we were deemed to be wrong by default by reason of our autism, on the grounds that we are deemed to not understand nor accept that we are wrong by default - and this was used to justify all sorts of draconian measures used against us to comprehensively silence us as much as possible, especially if we dared to formulate, express or voice any opinions on any issues in others authoritarian mindsets, which coming from “the likes of us” was deemed to be arrogance, impudence and impertinence which must be comprehensively defeated at every level, in every way and on every issue 

For many of us, even before we were diagnosed, we were always deemed by others to be wrong by default because as children we were meant to be “seen and not heard” - after we were diagnosed we were deemed to be wrong by default by reason of our autism, on the grounds that we are deemed to not understand nor accept that we are wrong by default - and this was used to justify all sorts of draconian measures used against us to comprehensively silence us as much as possible, especially if we dared to formulate, express or voice any opinions on any issues in others authoritarian mindsets, which coming from “the likes of us” was deemed to be arrogance, impudence and impertinence which must be comprehensively defeated at every level, in every way and on every issue