Published on 12, July, 2020
Hi,
How does everyone go about checking what they perceive as normal behaviour is quite normal when it contrasts with another person?
For example - I have a hospital trip coming up with 3 scans that are quite urgent. In the past if this is a loved one, I have offered to go and made it a priority to support the person.
my mum today said she didn’t offer to come because it was just a scan and she didn’t think it was important and that I view things differently.
that’s just one example, this happens to me quite a lot so I would like to know how you check on kind of what your brains perceives being normal?
Irrespective of whether one is autistic or neurotypical, I think that we all have our own ideas as to what we consider to be 'normal' behaviour, and the right thing to do.
If I had a hospital appointment (for any reason), I know that I would probably prefer someone like my son to accompany me. I know that in addition to feeling anxious, I would welcome the company. However, unless I needed to attend hospital for something serious (or potentially serious), I wouldn't necessarily expect my son to offer to come along with me.As autists, I think we can sometimes be guilty of assuming, or expecting other people to think and behave the same way as we do as individuals. When they don't, we can sometimes have difficulty understanding and accepting it.
Thank you