I never go on holiday and it gets me depressed

Hi I'm in my 40's and I am autistic and I never go on holiday. I have no family to go with and I really get jealous when everyone I know says they've been here , there and everywhere  and I just feel whys it never my chance to go away. I can't travel alone as I have learning disabilities and can't follow directions and have no common sense whatever that is and I would love to go to Devon or Northumberland or Scotland. But I have nobody who would want to take me and I live very far from these places and I can't travel alone.

I feel so jealous when people can go on multiple holidays in a year, I haven't been anywhere, I feel like I'm the only one who never goes away. 

  • A coach trip is a good suggestion - I've considered this myself. I can't use trains (multiple reasons including fear of ending up at the wrong destination, noise in the station and the general bustle) and I don't drive. 

    I wanted to take a trip to Edinburgh to see the pandas but they've gone back to China now :( 

    I think if I do feel brave enough to book a coach trip I will just go on a trip to the coast for a few days where I will be close enough to home to call my daughter to come and get me if I hate it! 

  • although may i add that you could google a coach holiday and check your local coach holiday company.

    coach holiday providers are very easy as its a coach, same as a bus, you go to where it picks people up, hop on, and its in their hands.

    they do day trips going to places for a day, and they also do longer holidays for week or 2 with hotels paid in cost and tours and trips during the holiday.

    i think a coach holiday is worth you checking out. i consider it myself as i havent been on holiday for years and the transport is a issue for me as how to get to any place. i dont have passport and a plane is a bit overkill for inside the uk, while a train changes too much for my area as i said.

  • i dont use public transport much, i used the train once and was nervous as i never used the train and didnt know how it worked, they had computer screen thingies to get the tickets from there and then and a guy came over while i was doing it to help anyway, then he pointed me to the place where my ticket said my train would be pulling up at. so it was pretty easy. and im from the north west so our trains are stupid as you need to keep jumping trains because the train lines dont all go everywhere and are not connected so you need to change trains like 5 times to get anywhere because the lines in the north west are stupid.

  • Hello,

    I was in Devon last month as I went to London to see a play and used the sleeper train. I was alone but booked assistance to help me on and off the trains. The play was a sensory performance and the staff were very helpful. My point is that there is help out there so please do not feel you must struggle. I was also given a free, sensory pack by Great Western Railway to help me relax when on the train. I also wear a Sunflower lanyard which helps staff know I may need extra help. I have tried asking people to come with me but I go alone but I see this as a strength as it allows me to gain confidence and the freedom to explore. London is so much more positive about disability's and I have met some great people there. Please do look in to a rail trip to Devon and what support is available from the rail companies.       

  • Hi I am also on the spectrum but I am pleased to say I have been over to the states and worked in 2 different summer camps which was absolutely amazing. After wards I traveled the 1st year I traveled alone went to Miami Disney world in Orlando Florida and New York. Last year I travelled with two other girls I met at camp they also were on the spectrum it was nice to have the company. I never thought in my whole life i would be able to catch a plane and travel abroad on my own and we talking America here long flight there and back but I did it and I’m so proud of my achievements. If I can do it I’m sure you can as well plus I’m sure there are loads of autistic friendly groups around that could help you. If your interested I have a cool app called hostel world that will help you find cheap hostels and you also meet other solo travellers as well. 

  • Are there any groups you belong to, or could join, where there are other single people who are in your situation who you could plan a trip with? What about a coach trip? Or a mini cruise? You could get a taxi from your home to take you to the coach or port. Then you wouldn't need directions, as someone else would be driving you somewhere.