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Abusive Relationship

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Hello

I'm really struggling with PTSD, burn out, depression, severe fatigue after being in an abusive relationship. It's hard healing because I am very isolated and I didn't see the signs so people I was speaking to thought I was alright. Most therapists dont understand autism and complex trauma. I haven't been able to find communities online

I'm not able to make much sense but wanted to know if there is anyone that has navigated this and would you be willing to share your experience?

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  • Hi how are you doing now? It's a while since you posted this, but i've just joined and seen your post. I have ADHD (diagnosed) and suspected autism (awaiting assessment). I, too suspect ptsd after sever emotional abuse. My partner was very narcissistic. I had counselling for years, even while i was with him, as I wanted to be a 'better partner' for him. She helped me to realise that I wasn't the problem and that it was abusive, but I really needed help to leave. i didn't know then that I was autistic or had adhd, but i suspect ,my adhd was a big factor in my being less able to leave, as i forgot the bad stuff continually and focused on the love bombing and the apparent closeness in front of me. Eventually he tired of me when his interests took him elsewhere as i became chronically ill. I managed to stay away for good with help from a local abuse charity, those I still get confused, doubt myself, and forget that it was abuse. 

    The local organisation that helped me were great - it helped that one girl in the group was neurodivergent, and one of the course leaders, so they were very aware and attuned to our needs. However , i started the second group and struggled a bit more as the different women in this group seemed neurotypical and I struggled to continue, because of that and the change, I think.

    Have you been to any similar groups?

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  • Hi how are you doing now? It's a while since you posted this, but i've just joined and seen your post. I have ADHD (diagnosed) and suspected autism (awaiting assessment). I, too suspect ptsd after sever emotional abuse. My partner was very narcissistic. I had counselling for years, even while i was with him, as I wanted to be a 'better partner' for him. She helped me to realise that I wasn't the problem and that it was abusive, but I really needed help to leave. i didn't know then that I was autistic or had adhd, but i suspect ,my adhd was a big factor in my being less able to leave, as i forgot the bad stuff continually and focused on the love bombing and the apparent closeness in front of me. Eventually he tired of me when his interests took him elsewhere as i became chronically ill. I managed to stay away for good with help from a local abuse charity, those I still get confused, doubt myself, and forget that it was abuse. 

    The local organisation that helped me were great - it helped that one girl in the group was neurodivergent, and one of the course leaders, so they were very aware and attuned to our needs. However , i started the second group and struggled a bit more as the different women in this group seemed neurotypical and I struggled to continue, because of that and the change, I think.

    Have you been to any similar groups?

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