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My partner with autism

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I’m not 100% sure what to do. My partner has autism and he’s gone on holiday with his friend. Who’s a male! Although there still has been some communicate I’m really struggling. He completely stopped telling me he loves me. Which is something he dose all the time. He’s telling me when he gets a chance he’ll video call and he hasn’t. Then he’s telling me all about these romantic walks with his friend and conversations by the river. I could really use some advice as I’m struggling with this. I’m trying my hardest not to overthink it but it’s getting really difficult! Can I have some advice please? 

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  • Hi, I hope I'm not being rude here, but I don't understand why your partner going on holiday with a male friend is worrying you. Are you a gay couple? Or are you a woman and he is bi? You seem to think he is on a 'romantic' holiday, but is that just what You are imagining, or are there any facts to support that idea?

    It could just be that he is enjoying the things they are doing so much that his mind is so involved in the activities he forgets to call you. He might not tell you he loves you on the phone if he thinks his friend is listening to the conversation.

    If he has used the word 'romantic ', another thing to bear in mind is that sometimes autistic people have a different understanding of words to neurotypical people. The word "romantic" can have several meanings - the most common in our culture is of a romantic relationship, but there are also romantic ideas or plans (Not practical or not factual) and romantic places (meaning the place itself has an emotional appeal, regardless of what you think of the person you are with, or even if you are alone). Perhaps he wants to take you there sometime so you can share the experience.

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  • Hi, I hope I'm not being rude here, but I don't understand why your partner going on holiday with a male friend is worrying you. Are you a gay couple? Or are you a woman and he is bi? You seem to think he is on a 'romantic' holiday, but is that just what You are imagining, or are there any facts to support that idea?

    It could just be that he is enjoying the things they are doing so much that his mind is so involved in the activities he forgets to call you. He might not tell you he loves you on the phone if he thinks his friend is listening to the conversation.

    If he has used the word 'romantic ', another thing to bear in mind is that sometimes autistic people have a different understanding of words to neurotypical people. The word "romantic" can have several meanings - the most common in our culture is of a romantic relationship, but there are also romantic ideas or plans (Not practical or not factual) and romantic places (meaning the place itself has an emotional appeal, regardless of what you think of the person you are with, or even if you are alone). Perhaps he wants to take you there sometime so you can share the experience.

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