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etie
over 10 years ago

Hi

I have a 14 year old son who has yet to be diagnosed, his psychologist is sure he has Aspergers and we are now on the ASD pathway.

He hasn't been to school for nearly 2 years and is home tutored, he was an A* pupil and on the gifted and talented register.

In the last month or two I have noticed uneplained marks and scratches on his body and this morning a really nasty soore on his leg.  I think he may be self harming and I don't know what to do.

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  • over 10 years ago

    Have you spoken to him about what he wants out of his life?  People on the spectrum often find it very hard to speak up, and if they have alexithymia (known to occur in ASC) they find it hard to even identify their own problems and feelings.

    Perhaps ask him to write a list of things he would like to do/achieve.  It might be that he spends a lot of time in his room but would actually like to socialise and doesn't know how, so is hating himself and seld-harming as a result.

    Or, has he come into contact with bullying socially that you are not aware of?  Maybe someone has put him down and he is hating himself because of that.

    Self-harming is stress relief, he may alternatively may have compulsive skin picking which is very common on the spectrum and exacerbated by stress.

    Ask him what the marks are, he is likely to be honest enough to tell you.

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  • over 10 years ago

    Have you spoken to him about what he wants out of his life?  People on the spectrum often find it very hard to speak up, and if they have alexithymia (known to occur in ASC) they find it hard to even identify their own problems and feelings.

    Perhaps ask him to write a list of things he would like to do/achieve.  It might be that he spends a lot of time in his room but would actually like to socialise and doesn't know how, so is hating himself and seld-harming as a result.

    Or, has he come into contact with bullying socially that you are not aware of?  Maybe someone has put him down and he is hating himself because of that.

    Self-harming is stress relief, he may alternatively may have compulsive skin picking which is very common on the spectrum and exacerbated by stress.

    Ask him what the marks are, he is likely to be honest enough to tell you.

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