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help am i being

dane

i need some guidence or just see what evreyone else thinks i recently got engaged to my girlfriend of 1 year i also have a tattoo with her name on my shoulder  the trouble is  i dont know if i trust her any more  she refuses to tell her mother  we are engeged  as she  says her mum will go up the  wall even though we  are aged 28 me and her 38  she whears her ring  sometimes  other times the thing  that really gets me  is she whears her  ring from  her ex fiancee and refuses to take it off and changes subject if i bring it up  another thing  she does is  when i txt her sometimes she txts back other times she wont bother  i ask her to ring me she wont  when we  go to bed   she will  only let  me do certain things  she tells me she will be intimate with me  then changes her mind the day she comes to see me  i put credit on her phone buy her evreything she wants do evreything for her  she tells me she loves me  as did her best friend confirm  she sid it we both have learning difficulties and me autisim am i being used i cant eat sleep look at my phone 24 n hours day  waiting for her to txt or phone and make excueses for her in my head i need some guidence

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  • But at what cost to yourself?

    Isn't it better to be alone than with someone using you?  Or being with someone who knows you are desperately hanging on to them so everything is on their terms?

    You won't respect yourself if you put yourself in positions where you don't engender respect from others towards you.

    I would personally say start afresh, join a local support group or Aspie group, start some hobbies or classes, find out who you are inside and what you need and want, before considering yourself as someone's partner.

    It is highly unlikely statistically that you would never meet someone else.

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  • But at what cost to yourself?

    Isn't it better to be alone than with someone using you?  Or being with someone who knows you are desperately hanging on to them so everything is on their terms?

    You won't respect yourself if you put yourself in positions where you don't engender respect from others towards you.

    I would personally say start afresh, join a local support group or Aspie group, start some hobbies or classes, find out who you are inside and what you need and want, before considering yourself as someone's partner.

    It is highly unlikely statistically that you would never meet someone else.

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