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What is wrong with wanting to marry a man from a good family, with a good job and looks good too?

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1. I told my colleagues this 

2. I fell out with this one guy and told him that the only reason he was gonna get girls was bc he was 1. tall and 2. his dad is rich 

3. Now everybody is making fun of me, telling me to stop bothering that one guy in an attempt to get my hands on his inheritance 

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  • The more parameters one attaches to a "mate specification" the smaller the pool of potential mates becomes even before you get to the "can we stand each others company for long periods?" bit.

    I've seen some proofs of this both on the internet and also walking about in real life...

    I literally have none of the required characteristics, but I have not lived alone since I reduced my own parameters to a more realsitic level of expection in my late twenties. 

    This suggests to me that your combination of characteristics actually exposes you to savage competion, for a very small pool of men, and I posit is the "lottery ticket" approach rather than the "put in the work" approach to courtship.

    I'm not good with my phrasing, I'll admit.

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  • The more parameters one attaches to a "mate specification" the smaller the pool of potential mates becomes even before you get to the "can we stand each others company for long periods?" bit.

    I've seen some proofs of this both on the internet and also walking about in real life...

    I literally have none of the required characteristics, but I have not lived alone since I reduced my own parameters to a more realsitic level of expection in my late twenties. 

    This suggests to me that your combination of characteristics actually exposes you to savage competion, for a very small pool of men, and I posit is the "lottery ticket" approach rather than the "put in the work" approach to courtship.

    I'm not good with my phrasing, I'll admit.

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