Socialising difficulties

Last Saturday I went away with some people for a friends 30th birthday and I was very apprehensive about it, I didn't know 3 out of 5 of the girls So I didn't know quite what to expect. ive been trying to make friends because I don't have any that live near me but they aren't very like me and they just like going out drinking which I really don't like at all. I decided to make an effort by going an putting up with it but I don't think it was a good idea, the other girls were very rude and I found them difficult to talk to. They wanted to play drinking games which I hate and I didn't play, so they probable didn't like me for that either. I'm light and sound sensitive so I dont like night clubs and I hate people constantly banging into me too and guys messing around and staring at us it makes me uncomfortable. I found them difficult to talk to, even more than usual because they wern't very intelligent at all and made silly unintelligible comments and asked questions which I would answer properly, but then I feel uncomfortable because I don't think they were meaning for me to actually answer them 'scientifically'. I guess we were very different people and they just didn't understand me.

ive no idea why we even went there because they didn't want to see anything of the place, I like the cultural things and going to museums and galleries and they really don't, they just like drinking and that's it. 

what do other people do about these socialising problems? I ended up getting very stressed and 'having a go' at one of my friends because they kept letting random drunk guys into our hotel room and I didn't like it. I don't know how she's taken it and whether she's offended by it or not. I'll have to wait and see the next time I have a shift with her.

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  • That's a very interesting explanation actually and i think you probably have something there! Thankfully even being around them I've kept my own identity, I wouldn't know how to be any different, and although they're the only friends I have nearby at the moment, I don't see myself turning into them at least. its hard to meet people and make friends. 

    Hope - Its a shame that online social forums are just online as I would definitely go to museums and galleries with you otherwise! I did an art degree so my friends at uni would happily go to galleries. I went to Paris a couple of years ago with two friends and it was four days of them... It was brilliant!! 

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  • That's a very interesting explanation actually and i think you probably have something there! Thankfully even being around them I've kept my own identity, I wouldn't know how to be any different, and although they're the only friends I have nearby at the moment, I don't see myself turning into them at least. its hard to meet people and make friends. 

    Hope - Its a shame that online social forums are just online as I would definitely go to museums and galleries with you otherwise! I did an art degree so my friends at uni would happily go to galleries. I went to Paris a couple of years ago with two friends and it was four days of them... It was brilliant!! 

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