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emmyjmac95

Hi there,

My twin brother liam 22, has aspergers syndrome. He lives with my dad in liverpool and i live in norfolk, i dont see him much due to the distance. my dad is really struggling with him as he tends to break things like cookers and windows. my dad has asked for help but no one is helping! my brother gets angry about not being able to get a girlfriend. he spends all day looking for one and comes back angry and a lashes out. i would just like some advice for my dad on how to deal with this and also what i can do to help him. is there anyone that could give me some useful information.

thanks, emma.

  • Someone needs to explain to your brother how it works with relationships too.  That he can't just go out "shopping" for a girlfriend, explain the sorts of places and situations that he might meet someone in and how he would strike up conversation.  Perhaps also by him a book of dating rules.

  • You could try to visit him or get him to come to you for a few days, this will give your dad a few days rest and give you an opportunity to have a heart to heart conversation with your brother. Suggest a hobby or a sport or a book to take his mind of things. Even a positive phone call once a week from you would be helpful, he may be lonely and needs to talk. 

  • Your brother is entitled to an assessment of need as an adult with a disability, by social services and your father is entitled to one as his carer.  Perhaps this would trigger a move into supported accommodation, as the strain may get too much for your dad if he is becoming violent.  There might be opportunities for socialising with others in an Asperger's group locally if you search, this may calm him down if he feels he is getting opportunities to meet people, whether for friendships or relationships.