Book reccomendation please for parents with Autistic/Aspergers adult Son

Thank you Ben x

Cassi,

This is the first book I read on autism, leading me to seek a  diagnosis at the age of 67.

You are so welcome! That’s what we are here for! It’s so important to help parents understand their children/adults autistic experience and why we approach the world differently. After all, if we can change one parent’s perspective on autistic experience, that could help the young person/adult enormously.

If you ever need anymore insight into your son’s autistic experience please just post here if you feel comfortable!

Oh wow! All these replies are amazing.  Those books seem perfect for what I need.  Many thanks, x

Hello Amerantin, will check those books out, thank you so much.

He refuses to get help or diagnosed as says that the medical community does not understand.  This worries me alot, as can clearly see he needs the right type of support.  I have mentioned counselling to him.  He reads alot of psychology type books, including books on Einstein, Plato that kind of thing.

When he was a child, I found that I needed to be a 100% parent to him, if I faltered or had a bad day he would go downhill quickly.  His behaviour in comparison to others did stand out, I had to be really hands on and communicate with his teachers alot.  He hated me trying to get him to play with other children and he cannot cope with any visitors in our home.  He also cannot cope with birthdays or Christmas.  Its a relief for me to write all this out, thanks for reading and your book recommendations, I really appreciate it xx

Hi. Are you looking for books authored from an autistic perspective such as memoirs?

There is so much diversity in our autistic community that it is quite difficult to signpost you to books that might be of use.

Nevertheless, here are a couple of suggestions of books that might be useful:

• Avoiding Anxiety in Autistic Adults- by Luke Beardon
• Untypical by Pete Wharmby.

Also if you want to learn more about autistic cognition and your son’s responses to change please visit:

https://monotropism.org/

https://www.bps.org.uk/psychologist/me-and-monotropism-unified-theory-autism

Hi Cassi, you could try looking at these two books:

Untypical, by Pete Wharmby - would give you some insight into the autistic experience of life:

https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B09VX99WLR/ref=kwrp_li_stb_nodl 

Neurotribes by Steve Silberman, a fantastic book that gives a rich history of and explanation of autism.

https://www.amazon.co.uk/NeuroTribes-Legacy-Autism-Smarter-Differently-ebook/dp/B01N2W270Y?ref_=ast_author_mpb

I note that you say he’s undiagnosed. Have you or he attempted to get a diagnosis? If he’s suffering badly from anxiety there are quite effective ways to treat it, if he’s willing to engage.

And of course there are lots of people on here happy to give our insights and experiences if that’s of help to you.