Published on 12, July, 2020
I tried writing this a few times over the past couple days but I was having trouble but thats kind of the point of this post.
I dont talk very often out loud (unless its about my special interest and im with people im comfortable with) but online I can write wayyy more. I usually even annoy people with how much I write when I text/email/etc but the last couple days I keep trying to comment on things on here but I changed my mind and didnt send it. I think I only made 4ish comments and they were pretty short than my usual. I dont know why I cant write right now, its like I dont feel like it, mixed with I cant find the words I want. I was just wondering if anybody else has had this before and if theres a way I can get past it?
Most of my life I've been long-winded but since the coronavirus period started in 2020 I began exploring the comedy sector (online only) and found it very good practice for me in condensation (regarding joking around generally not water vapour)
A song I thought was appropriate. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=a01QQZyl-_I
I find it really difficult to be chatty with anybody. I'm only really chatty with myself, I'm not crazy lolol but I do talk to myself more I'm just airing my thoughts vocally I think.
I find online easier than real life. Real life I need to mask and try to "fit" in and be like everyone else but here I can be myself and it feels like I'm amongst friends on this forum.
It's a good song that. Very stirring.
I post on here and two other forums. I feel safest on here.
Yes, I've deactivated my social media accounts lately and am only joining in online here at the moment (+playing around with Google Bard). I'm glad this forum service is moderated
I've been inspired+excited lately to learn this Italian song youtu.be/4CI3lhyNKfo that was shared by Former Member on here recently I think. I've managed to get the hang of the first 2 verses so far. È stato un piacere di conoscerla , I can say that in 5 languages as it's a nice thing to be able to say imo
I can be unguarded online but the problem is that so can everyone else.
If I'm comfortable and relaxed in the company of another person, I can be just as chatty in person. That said, I've become a bit of a recluse in recent years, so I'm somewhat out of practice now.
I'm the same. My entire social life is online at the moment. Which is easier? Online or real life?
I have heard this is a good book for learning languages. https://www.amazon.co.uk/Fluent-3-Months-Benny-Lewis/dp/0007543921/ref=sr_1_1?crid=2E26EK3ZJB5KG&keywords=fluent+in+3+months&qid=1700640198&sprefix=fluent+in+%2Caps%2C75&sr=8-1
I'm more chatty on here than I am in person. In a day I don't think I say more than 50 words in person...I am much more social online than in RL.
Writing is something I love and because I'm so passionate about it I never lose the drive for it and keep going and write loads. Sometimes I load up Word just so I can write....about anything!
I like being online and able to communicate here. It means I get to write, I can be with people who understand and are nice, and I don't have to hide my true autistic self. Sometimes when commenting I need to go to the fun off topic posts, rather than more serious ones. A lot of it depends on how my mental health is and what's going on like with school.
Sometimes I write a long post and then delete it and start from scratch. I spend a lot of time editing my posts as well so it's more less perfect lolol
If you're not feeling a post then try a different post... and try more lighthearted ones or make your own.
Some people seem to have a real knack for condensing what they say, but it's something I've often struggled to do myself.
There are occasions when I can be quite chatty when I'm communicating on here, or when I'm responding to the likes of personal e-mails. However, there are occasions when I feel as though there's a bit of a mental block. In my mind, I know what I want to say (type), but it's as though my brain won't play ball and allow me to progress any further. If I'm lucky, I might get as far as typing a handful of words, before I realise I'm fighting a losing battle and give up.
In my case, it's not that I don't want to write (type), although I do admittedly have days when I know I'm just not in the mood to, and I just think, "Nope!"
It is very empowering and very good for the cerebellum. You can start learning whenever you like. I hope you can find the time and impetus to find a language that excites you!
It must be very satisfying to be fluent (native speaker level even) in another language. I would like to experience it in my lifetime but haven't so far.
I just need to try
Me too, take a 'leap of faith' etc (but I'm 'seeker agnostic' (typology), I have no faith ). I used to be very withdrawn reserved quiet 'shy' outside of home (e.g.when I was a youth). I later have been accused of talking too much, being to loud etc, the polar opposite. I hope to experience more in the middle of possible. In my lifetime I've been told I should try and stand out more, be an individual etc. I've done this and been told I should conform more, stand out less etc. Hopefully I'll experience the middle ground/way of all this too
I tend to delete things if they seem too long, and then I try to condense it shorter, but it doesn't always work out, and I might end up writing even more than I did before.
If your friend doesn't reply, I don't think you should automatically think you've done something wrong and blame yourself for it. Maybe in the past there might have been someone who ignored you because they disliked something you said to them, but people who do that are just not good to hang out with. They'll just hurt your feelings. And even if you lose touch with them, I hope you stop blaming yourself for their actions.