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Lonely

NAS85363

Hi there i was diagnosed early 20s im now in my 30s

I have aspergers (asd)

I just wish i knew how to make friends or even just a friend but it is so hard, all i have is my boyfriend i feel so lonely all the time and just don't no how to change this, i can write things down but talking face to face i struggle until i am comfortable with you, i wouldn't even no where to go to meet any people, im scared of rejection and being found annoying by other people.

Can anyone relate to this?

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  • Definitely can relate. Probably everyone on here can relate to this a bit I imagine. It’s great that you have your boyfriend though. Is he understanding? And does he have any friends that you get along with? I definitely don’t feel comfortable to people I’m not really close to. When I do my husband always says that an outsider would never know - because I do a reasonable job of hiding how stressful I find it. But after any conversation with other people I just feel exhausted and stressed. Because of this I don’t really have any friends that I regularly see because I just don’t enjoy it, and gradually people I knew at college have just drifted away to their own lives. Sometimes I think ‘would I like to have friends?’ - but deep down I just don’t want the stress of it. Do you go to work? And if so do you meet people there?

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  • Definitely can relate. Probably everyone on here can relate to this a bit I imagine. It’s great that you have your boyfriend though. Is he understanding? And does he have any friends that you get along with? I definitely don’t feel comfortable to people I’m not really close to. When I do my husband always says that an outsider would never know - because I do a reasonable job of hiding how stressful I find it. But after any conversation with other people I just feel exhausted and stressed. Because of this I don’t really have any friends that I regularly see because I just don’t enjoy it, and gradually people I knew at college have just drifted away to their own lives. Sometimes I think ‘would I like to have friends?’ - but deep down I just don’t want the stress of it. Do you go to work? And if so do you meet people there?

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  • in reply to Kate Kestrel

    Hey thanks for your reply, yeah my boyfriend is understanding but i kinda think he may be autistic himself but he hasnt got a diagnosis.

    I am the same also as yourself i want friends but i dont want the hassle or awkwardness of conversation.

    I dont work i wouldn't even no where to begin with work i would struggle so bad =/