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Goosey's gone AWOL again

Mark

I sent her a message on Sep 12; I hadn't had a reply, so I sent her another message asking her to send me a little message to reassure me that it wasn't that she doesn't like me. She replied to that message and said she'd try and send me a reply to the previous message tonight; this was a week ago.

And now she's become Former member, and I'm still waiting for my reply! Has anyone got any idea what's happened to her?

Is there any point in sending her another message? I don't know if she'll even see it.

Goosey seemed to be happy here. If even she gives up using the forum after less than 6 months, what does that say about the forum?

  • I too miss Goosey, she was a little ray of sunshine. It would be really good to see her return.

    I've been here nearly three years now, the frequency of my posts varying greatly. I notice the 'mood' of the place does fluctuate a little..... just like the 'mood' in all other areas of life. But this is a fairly vibrant community and we will almost certainly survive a few bumps.

    I  belong to one other forum on the 'net (not autism related) which was once vibrant but today is very much quieter. Quite why it lost so many of its members is difficult to understand, but I have seen the finger pointed at facebook competition, however, as I'm not a member of facebook I really can't comment.

    I'm not sure if other ASD forums exist butmas I'm content with this one, I shall stick around.

    Ben

  • in reply to Mark
    Mark said:
    Can you tell me what any of them are

    Yes - a common one is feeling smothered or stifled by another member, or set of members on here.

    Sometimes that comes in the form of unpleasantness, rudeness or toxic comments, but it also comes in the form of unwarranted reliance, neediness or burdensome correspondence requirements.

    We all have to tread lightly with each other in here.  Be gentle and understand the other peoples needs, as well as our own.

    Anyway - you asked what sorts of reasons people have for suddenly running away from here - and I think what I have explained about accounts for the majority of those instances.

    I'm sorry that you are struggling at the loss of Gossey from this place.  We are all sad and disappointed too, but we must all respect her need or wish to do so.

  • in reply to Sporadic Sparkly
    Sporadic Sparkly said:
    There are all sorts of reasons as to why she left.

    Can you tell me what any of them are (by pm if you don't want to do so publicly)? I need Goosey. I need a friend! :-(

  • Goosey has deleted her account before, she said her mental health hadn’t been very good. I hope after a rest she returns again.

  • Hi Mark, it was a few days ago now that Goosey left, I noticed her absence on another thread. 

    I don't know the reason, perhaps she'll return at another time. 

  • When she first disappeared I had the same concern (it was something I did) but she reassured me that it wasn't the case.

    I can only assume she's got a lot going on in her life. I just hope she is receiving the support she needs.

    If she's coming up as 'deleted user', there's no point sending another message. Pretty sure deactivation isn't an option so the account is gone. 

  • It is indeed sad that Goosey has left NAS and had her account removed, especially as she had seemed very happy here.

    There are all sorts of reasons as to why she left. Unless she returns and wants to talk about why she left, all we can do is respect her decision and hope that she is okay.

    As Goosey's account has been closed and she is no longer a member, sending her another message would be rather pointless.