3 Good Things (Redux)

1. I had an appointment, with my Key Worker, this afternoon.

2. I got talking to my neighbour; when bringing stuff, for incineration at her fire.

3. I scolded Hope, when heading to do #2, after she ran onto the road. Afterwards, she came back home after I offered wet food.

1. I had an appointment, with my Key Worker, this afternoon.

2. I got talking to my neighbour; when bringing stuff, for incineration at her fire.

3. I scolded Hope, when heading to do #2, after she ran onto the road. Afterwards, she came back home after I offered wet food.

I think Isperg speaks a lot of sense here.  Cats and dogs and rabbits and horses and goats all tend to communicate by posture and "looks."  Most of them will do some noises too, but I very rarely make noises when I'm chatting with animals....unless it is a really low, calm rumble of words in my chest....they seem to like that.  A pi55ed-off stare at most animals is worth 100 decibels of shouting, in my humble experience.....they understand the point you are making much more easily with your eyes.....that's my impression, anyway.

You gave her a great name.  Trust your naming.

Follow the scolding with an explanation of why you don't want her to go into the road.

Try and believe as you do it that it works, because you'll do it more honestly and from the heart which I believe is why it works.

Inermittent scolding can work well, but it's the apex of conventional discipline for cats. Punihment just sets them against you. Getting actually annoyed at mine seems to "hurt then deeply", for a while, and their behaviour can noticeably change.

OTOH:

If one of my lovely cats starts yakking up a hairball or having any other sort of gastro-intestinal conniption on the soft furnishings, they've learned to expect and accept a lunge accompanied by sudden loudness in thier direction, which can only be halted by taking it to the floor...

Usually when they deliberately and insolently go against what they know are your wishes, it's a demand for either attention, or a change in something basic.but next to impossible to fathom out. 

I've been at thgis a long time but it takes at least three years on average I find to form any sort of proper human/cat bonding. The first three years just lays the goround work for what is to come, and the pace is dictated as much by your cats patience and abiity as much as your own. 

You seem to be ding well, and plesase repost pics of hope from time to time in my awful "show us your.." thread. How does your artist friend get on with hope?