Serious question about love

Hey all,

So i have a genuine question which has been bothering me for some time. 

When i was diagnosed one part of feedback i received was it was clear i struggle to understand happiness. Since then a therapist has also honed in on the lack of my understanding and experiencing happiness. 

So my wife and i are going through marital problems. I tell her i love her, and i suppose i believe it as well, but how do i know? If we were to split i would move on just fine. Same with any relationship i have or have ever had, romantic or otherwise. 

Im not cold. I am however questioning my ability to really love. How do any of us know? I can only draw on my own experiences and i enjoy being around my wife. I dont need her. 

My pattern of life is brief intense infatuation with people or things, becoming quite obsessive and unhealthy. Then almost a nothing. Like the fire burns quick and hot and then disappears. 

Its not a nice way to be. 

Anyone have any insight or experiences of their own? 

Thanks 

Dog

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  • When the fire burns away, you'd still be lost without that person, because they understand you like no one else can and you understand and would do anything for them. That's love.

    One like that in my life. Love him till I die. Sadly lost in the mist of his own problem, just now. But when the mist clears, I will be there as I always was. Meanwhile, I'll survive alone. No one else holds any interest for me.

    Mind you, pretty convinced, he's autistic too.

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  • When the fire burns away, you'd still be lost without that person, because they understand you like no one else can and you understand and would do anything for them. That's love.

    One like that in my life. Love him till I die. Sadly lost in the mist of his own problem, just now. But when the mist clears, I will be there as I always was. Meanwhile, I'll survive alone. No one else holds any interest for me.

    Mind you, pretty convinced, he's autistic too.

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