Same Difference?

Desmond79 said:

It's all about compartmentalising us into cliques, and cadres, in the name of 'counterculture'.

In spite of claims of wanting to be unique (and frankly we all are) we all want to belong which is why we seek out similar minded people who have shared interests, perspectives and/or objectives.

Going back to our primal natures we are a pack animal so this is entirely natural.

What sort of zoom meetings are you taking part in?

I think my place in the pack is wherever the rest aren’t congregating, I have known it in the past that a certain few people tend to congregate around me, but I always resist that kind of metastasis..

DeSpereaux said:

I think my place in the pack is wherever the rest aren’t congregating

Does that mean you aren't human? Not being true to your nature?

Or, more likely, just a contrarian?  ;)

I dunno though, maybe I am sub-human in that regard, those kids certainly seemed to think so..

I guess I just like to keep my options open, I’ve never taken well to demands for loyalty, but I think my point runs deeper than that. I think that people can tell that, even in my contrarian moments, I still am not grasping the unwritten rules..

I remember my mother telling me once that she had observed me at a children’s party when I was about five. She said that it was clear that I wasn’t responding appropriately to a game of ‘musical chairs’.  
She said that I was poorly-adhering to the rules of the game, I was hyper-focusing on getting to the chair, to the point where I didn’t realise that all of the other children were rooting-against me and booing me.  
She said that she felt really-bad on my behalf, and that the other parents weren’t rooting for me either, I just wasn’t grasping the pack-mentality.
I ended up winning the game and my mother shouted in cheer over the other parents, I heard her and was ecstatic at her novel gesture, oblivious to why she was acting differently.

So I think ultimately that I can be a contrarian actively, but sometimes I am being a contrarian as a result of hyper-focusing on my point, and not on the balance of a given social interaction..

I guess I just like to keep my options open, I’ve never taken well to demands for loyalty, but I think my point runs deeper than that. I think that people can tell that, even in my contrarian moments, I still am not grasping the unwritten rules..

I remember my mother telling me once that she had observed me at a children’s party when I was about five. She said that it was clear that I wasn’t responding appropriately to a game of ‘musical chairs’.  
She said that I was poorly-adhering to the rules of the game, I was hyper-focusing on getting to the chair, to the point where I didn’t realise that all of the other children were rooting-against me and booing me.  
She said that she felt really-bad on my behalf, and that the other parents weren’t rooting for me either, I just wasn’t grasping the pack-mentality.
I ended up winning the game and my mother shouted in cheer over the other parents, I heard her and was ecstatic at her novel gesture, oblivious to why she was acting differently.

So I think ultimately that I can be a contrarian actively, but sometimes I am being a contrarian as a result of hyper-focusing on my point, and not on the balance of a given social interaction..

I dunno though, maybe I am sub-human in that regard, those kids certainly seemed to think so..