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Worried about daughter's new obsession

YetAnotherMummy

Hello, I’m new!

I’m Mum of a  gorgeous teenage daughter who was diagnosed Aspergers when she was 14 , she's now 17, following an eating problem. I often thought she was before she was diagnosed, from a very young age I knew she had certain difficulties, that she might be on the autism spectrum and overall she received very good care, has recovered from her eating disorder and is on the whole doing very well. I’m glad we were listened to.

The reason I’ve joined this forum is because I’m a bit worried. The reason being my daughter has always had seemingly random obsessions (some make her happy, and some, like her issues with food, don’t) and recently her focus seems to be, and I don’t know where she got this from, on HIV/Aids. She is very indignant about how people treat people with HIV and about the wrong beliefs people have on how it can be passed on. Of course it’s good for her to be aware of these things, I’m all for people educating themselves for the sake of their health and the health of others, and it’s good she knows things now about a very stigmatized illness and therefore if she comes across someone in her life who is effected she is unlikely to be iignorant and insensitive as some people unfortunately might be. The only issue I have is that I don’t know where this has come from and I think it’s a rather unhealthy thing for someone to be intensely focussed on, but when she becomes obsessed there’s not a lot  anyone  can do – is this a common sort of thing? Does anyone have any advice, or can throw any  light on where this might have sprung from?Any advice would be so appreciated.

Thank you,

YetAnotherMummy

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  • Hello Goldenlady1,

    I've read both your replies now, thanks so much for your time. Reading about your son, it sounds like a control and anxiety thing on his part, so I've actually started to wonder if my daughters obsession is  a control thing on her part. Maybe because she feels judged by others due to her own condition, she has looked for another stigmatized condition (not that autism is particularly stigmatized)and feels she has some sort of strange affinity with sufferers. Either that or she is sexually active and because she has always had a bit of an obsession with illness, and is anxious by nature she's just concerned for her health. At 17 I know this is a natural partof life and don't mind if she is in a relationship, she has been spending alot of time with an old friend of the family recently who is male and her age (they have always been close and she says  he's the only one of her peers who understands her and is always kind to her) and despite what she believes, she is attractive. I just wish she'd talk to me about it...thank you so much again for our help, I really do appreciate it.

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  • Hello Goldenlady1,

    I've read both your replies now, thanks so much for your time. Reading about your son, it sounds like a control and anxiety thing on his part, so I've actually started to wonder if my daughters obsession is  a control thing on her part. Maybe because she feels judged by others due to her own condition, she has looked for another stigmatized condition (not that autism is particularly stigmatized)and feels she has some sort of strange affinity with sufferers. Either that or she is sexually active and because she has always had a bit of an obsession with illness, and is anxious by nature she's just concerned for her health. At 17 I know this is a natural partof life and don't mind if she is in a relationship, she has been spending alot of time with an old friend of the family recently who is male and her age (they have always been close and she says  he's the only one of her peers who understands her and is always kind to her) and despite what she believes, she is attractive. I just wish she'd talk to me about it...thank you so much again for our help, I really do appreciate it.

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