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I used to be cuddly and want sex, now I don't like being touched at all.

Happier_in_pjs

I'm newly married (May 2023) . Before we got married we had regular sex, we were very affectionate. Now I can't stand it. I have asd and my partner hasn't. He's really understanding, but I hate rejecting him all the time. The sex is amazing when we do, but the kissing and cuddling makes me not want to.  

How can I change this ? 

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  • Sorry I’m finding it difficult to get my head around this. When I enjoy  something I generally keep doing it until something stops me. Even to excess sometimes. So I guess my question must be what’s changed? Is it him or is it you? Has he grown less attractive? Become less attentive? Are you more stressed? Or depressed? Something must’ve changed although I can’t possibly know what it is based on what you told us.

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  • Sorry I’m finding it difficult to get my head around this. When I enjoy  something I generally keep doing it until something stops me. Even to excess sometimes. So I guess my question must be what’s changed? Is it him or is it you? Has he grown less attractive? Become less attentive? Are you more stressed? Or depressed? Something must’ve changed although I can’t possibly know what it is based on what you told us.

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  • in reply to Peter

    permit me some really wild speculation and if I’m wrong just tell me. could it be what’s changed is you and that you’ve gotten bored. any  new relationship is super exciting just by being new. You say he’s super affectionate but maybe that’s a little vanilla? Maybe its all just feels a bit samey and your yearning for some variety? 

    as I say I’m just speculating.