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bad days

Autist

I don't even know where to put this. It is very bad because I barely ever help anyone else here but you can't ask for help if you don't help. I don't even know what sort of help i need. All I know is I'm crashing. BSOD. These things keep happening that make it hard for me to not fall apart. I was going to write about them but I can't. But the latest is I did not get paid. Which meant I could not afford to get the bus to my part time job which I really enjoy. Which meant I am having another REALLY BAD DAY. There have been too many REALLY BAD DAYS recently. It just isn't worth living anymore.

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  • Paull did make a good point about positive thinking. Autist needs to look for "break" messages he can use to stop negative re-inforcement.

    Trouble is autist is hanging around for weeks not knowing whether he is going to get help, and getting very unsympathetic help from his GP.

    Hence there is considerable potential for him to dwell on the negative aspects of his situation, particularly following through consequences of every possible action. Autist needs to cultivate some "break phrases" - thinking about good thoughts like "egg on toast for breakfast" or the World Cup as Paull suggests, isn't sufficient. You need something sharp and quick to pull you out of a phase of spiralling negative thinking.

    One technique is to have several big rubber bands on your wrist which you pull back and release sharply on the palm side of your wrist - the pain will interrupt bad thoughts. Another is to sharply flick your ear. Or if you can devise a phrase that is strong enough to break the thought train like STOP THIS NOW!  With practice you can break out the loop.

    Another option is to write down your thoughts in a notebook. Putting them down on paper enables you to evaluate them on paper, and reduces the load on your mind.

    People on the autistic spectrum may have this predisposition to analyse all the worst options from the need to analyse social situation when not properly understood. I think it generates an aptitude and possibly releases some chemicals that make it easier to keep doing it for everything. It quickly clutters the brain and contributes to sensory overload and melt downs.

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  • Paull did make a good point about positive thinking. Autist needs to look for "break" messages he can use to stop negative re-inforcement.

    Trouble is autist is hanging around for weeks not knowing whether he is going to get help, and getting very unsympathetic help from his GP.

    Hence there is considerable potential for him to dwell on the negative aspects of his situation, particularly following through consequences of every possible action. Autist needs to cultivate some "break phrases" - thinking about good thoughts like "egg on toast for breakfast" or the World Cup as Paull suggests, isn't sufficient. You need something sharp and quick to pull you out of a phase of spiralling negative thinking.

    One technique is to have several big rubber bands on your wrist which you pull back and release sharply on the palm side of your wrist - the pain will interrupt bad thoughts. Another is to sharply flick your ear. Or if you can devise a phrase that is strong enough to break the thought train like STOP THIS NOW!  With practice you can break out the loop.

    Another option is to write down your thoughts in a notebook. Putting them down on paper enables you to evaluate them on paper, and reduces the load on your mind.

    People on the autistic spectrum may have this predisposition to analyse all the worst options from the need to analyse social situation when not properly understood. I think it generates an aptitude and possibly releases some chemicals that make it easier to keep doing it for everything. It quickly clutters the brain and contributes to sensory overload and melt downs.

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