New Kitty

OH, it can take a LOT more than that... "Time" for a start. Think of your new kitty as potentially a whole absorbing hobby and you won't go far wrong

See it from her point of view, she WAS kidnapped! (& transported to a new environment...)

Very possibly, the first thing she will want to find is a "safe place" where she can go and chill when things are getting too overwhelming

There are seven basic services a cat needs for a start, you've only mentioned three...

1. food - either crunchies (dried stuff) Wet food, or food from the big silver box ( chicken or ham form the fridge)  

2. water. We have a large catit water fountain thing (cat-IT stuff is good generally) so they generally don't need to ask 

3. Cat litter regularly changed.

4. Affection / company (on demand)

5. Play / stimulation - This can be a bit of a learning curve or it'll gel straight away...

6.  Recreational drugs. A.K.A catnip, Silver Vine. Occasionally at first then (on demand)

7. Opening of doors (on demand)

"ON demand" items can be negotiated somewhat: My cats clearly understand phrases like "FIrst I need to go pee", "NO". "Not now". And even "please leave me alone" which is great, But OTOH they know I WILL deliver the service after I've had a pee, NO means no, "not now" means the same but its worth reminding me, (and they do!) and "please leave me alone" means I'm about to chase you away or get out the vacuum cleaner.

Your cat once she settles in and realises that YOU are her pet human will attempt to train and instruct you, often by either comng and "bothering you" OR simply by sitting and looking at you. We have some evidence to suggest that they really are "willing you to do things" and if you are in a receptive state you can find yourself after a year or two Automatically getting up and providing the right service without really thinking about it...  

However for now, whilst you are waiting for you cat to accept you, (Dogs Automatically love you unless you are a crashing ***, cats decide after a period of consideration what they think of you) your best bet is to go read some cat books, like "cat confidential".

Provide or allocate scratching areas and materials, and learn to say "no" kindly/humourously, in a warning tone, authoritively and when REALLY NECCESARY sharply. Cats like nuance...

I've read what you write, and once you get past the sharp start of the learning curve I think you might find you've made a very good life choice. The sort of life choice that makes you look forwards to coming home... 

She warmed to me, this morning.

Apparently, cats aren't supposed to eat dry food; causes urinary tract inflammation.

Actually a bit is good for their teeth. But yes the ideal is mostly wet food. Unfortunately my new cat won't touch wet food! I am a bit worried as my first cat also only ate dry and did end up with kidney failure.

She couldn't live off that though, they need the right vitamins and minerals in proper cat food. When I asked the vet why I had to buy expensive tins of single source protein food for my previous cat rather than just feed him actual turkey, that's what I was told. She did eat a little bit of fish from our dinner the other day, but she usually sleeps through dinner, she is not very interested in food, which is so weird after my last cat who was very food driven.

She couldn't live off that though, they need the right vitamins and minerals in proper cat food. When I asked the vet why I had to buy expensive tins of single source protein food for my previous cat rather than just feed him actual turkey, that's what I was told. She did eat a little bit of fish from our dinner the other day, but she usually sleeps through dinner, she is not very interested in food, which is so weird after my last cat who was very food driven.