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Small changes adding up, really struggling, is it my autism?

Munchkin

Hi, I'm a 36 year old female, self diagnosis. 

I find I really struggle with small changes mounting up, it's always been an issue looking back, I can cope with change but it really ups my stress levels. And it tends to be dismissed as me being a control freak or something. But right now it's really pronounced. So much change has happened in my life, I've moved to a new area, my house needs a lot of work and the jobs never end up being what I planned (strip a layer find out the previous owners have done something weird I have to something different about) but it's in work that I'm really struggling at the moment, it's making me feel incredibly drained. I have a colleague who doesn't do what he says he will, he will do a random other things constantly all the time and I have to pick up the thing he didn't do. 

I feel ashamed for struggling with it, like it's me being a control freak and that's a bad thing so I shouldn't. But I just want to be able to figure out my own day as much as possible. I can deal with the unavoidable changes but I'm getting really angry at this guys unreliability. 

And in general I am noticing I feel like constant change is just running out my batteries at the moment nothing seems to go the way I plan. 

So is this likely to be due to my autism? Is it the sort of thing I can ask for reasonable adjustment for? I have already disclosed to my manager, she seems very supportive, her daughter is on the spectrum and she's actually helping me gain understanding of my own. I've never had support I just have to deal with things and the diagnosis has only ever really been useful for me understanding myself. But it's possible in this (also new) job there could be support for me, or at least understanding 

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  • I remember before I self diagnosed I had realized that I struggle at work if too many changes. There are a lot of things I can't change so I have had to find ways of managing this. My manager is aware of this and I have had many discussions, sometimes by sending an email regarding the issues first. Two things I find help are asking for as much information and notice as possible and arranging places to go if I need some space away from people.

    Regarding moving house, I had a difficult time when I moved in and found lots of things needed doing. I prioritized the things that were most essential so they were sorted over a long period. It has taken longer but things feel better each time something is done. I allow breaks in between too as I find the stress of someone coming affects me for a while before, then need time to get over it.

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  • I remember before I self diagnosed I had realized that I struggle at work if too many changes. There are a lot of things I can't change so I have had to find ways of managing this. My manager is aware of this and I have had many discussions, sometimes by sending an email regarding the issues first. Two things I find help are asking for as much information and notice as possible and arranging places to go if I need some space away from people.

    Regarding moving house, I had a difficult time when I moved in and found lots of things needed doing. I prioritized the things that were most essential so they were sorted over a long period. It has taken longer but things feel better each time something is done. I allow breaks in between too as I find the stress of someone coming affects me for a while before, then need time to get over it.

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