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What was this? (Shutdown or Meltdown?)

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I was in an odd head-space earlier so I am now retrospectively aware that I info-dumped this in an unrelated thread, going off topic, but it has been bothering me being unable to identify what really happened.
In https://community.autism.org.uk/f/miscellaneous-and-chat/31785/what-were-you-like-as-a-child/292826#292826 I described it (and still would) as:

" I had a heck of a stressfull drive back home and did this weird sleep but not really sleeping collase thing not long after I got in through teh door, still feel pretty rough."
"My eyes and my head hurt a lil bit still but I just had my typical 2 hours later after it's all over belated mini cry so I'm probably on the mend now."


But what was it? Is this a combination like I suspect or is it an expression of a meltdown or shutdown I just haven't had exactly that way before?
I say this because I don't usually register shutdowns, I so frequently have the sensation like too many tabs are open and "the computer has frozen" (usually in social situations where I "short circuit") that they are pretty normal for me, and they don't last longer than a few seconds before I can become verbal again so I usually just dismiss them especially because other people also kinda just accept them as a form of "brain fart". My meltdowns on the other hand can last from a few hours to half a day. So I don't really know what a short meltdown or a longer shutdown should feel like. It feels like there was some kind of overlap with the way I got overwhelmed and the physical symptoms that came on before, during, and after being similar to a meltdown but I didn't have the pacing or screaming that I would have with a meltdown. It felt like I just turned off at the power.
Anyway, if you have any insight I'd really like to hear it.

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  • Maybe because you were able to collapse and weren't in a situation where you had to carry on then it didn't lead to a meltdown? I used to believe that I had a short temper before I realised that I'm autistic. But the way I experienced a temper didn't seem to be how NT people did. The root wasn't anger. I would feel heat rising in me and if the heat reached my head I either wanted to escape or it would feel like my emotions would be uncontrollable. When I experience shutdown I get very quiet and hide myself away, and even doing basic things like washing or eating take a lot of effort. For me shutdown occurs after a long build up of stress, whereas meltdown can come after just one incident or a bad day. Interestingly I also feel better if I can cry. I hate crying in front of other people so I've learned that if I can get to a safe space and let it all out I feel much better and recover faster than if I have to hold it together. I also find walking helps me process. After about 15 minutes of walking I feel the ruminating thoughts unravelling and I get a sense of peace. It's why I prefer to walk to go somewhere too. It gives me space to process between transitioning to different situations, e.g. from home to work, or after socialising to being at home. 

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  • Maybe because you were able to collapse and weren't in a situation where you had to carry on then it didn't lead to a meltdown? I used to believe that I had a short temper before I realised that I'm autistic. But the way I experienced a temper didn't seem to be how NT people did. The root wasn't anger. I would feel heat rising in me and if the heat reached my head I either wanted to escape or it would feel like my emotions would be uncontrollable. When I experience shutdown I get very quiet and hide myself away, and even doing basic things like washing or eating take a lot of effort. For me shutdown occurs after a long build up of stress, whereas meltdown can come after just one incident or a bad day. Interestingly I also feel better if I can cry. I hate crying in front of other people so I've learned that if I can get to a safe space and let it all out I feel much better and recover faster than if I have to hold it together. I also find walking helps me process. After about 15 minutes of walking I feel the ruminating thoughts unravelling and I get a sense of peace. It's why I prefer to walk to go somewhere too. It gives me space to process between transitioning to different situations, e.g. from home to work, or after socialising to being at home. 

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