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Advice needed for 13yr old son reluctant for ASD assessment

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Hi, after years of waiting for an ASD assessment for my now 13 yr old son, I had a phone call this week saying he’d met the criteria to be assessed in a clinic next week. On sharing this with my son, he said he doesn’t want to know if he is autistic or not. When I told the assistant on the phone, she said that he needs more time to process this so the appointment has been cancelled with a review phone call in a month. How do I speak about this with my son who is very reluctant to any sort of change? Any advice would be welcome as I’m feeling overwhelmed at the moment. Thank you. H

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  • Martin has the right approach I think - pointing out that it is more of an exclusive club with incredible potential if harnessed should get his interest.

    Does he have any issues from his symptoms? If so, then point out that he can get help with these which will be very handy when he is making the most of that incredible brain power that many high functioning autists have.

    Remind him that is he is autistic then there is no need to disclose it if he is adamant, but it will give him the opportunity to learn more about it, how to live with it and make the most of his potential.

    Is he open to a bit of bribing to get the test done? It is probably worth it from your side I would think.

    If he remains against it then I would keep notes of the autistic behaviours you notice over time and in maybe a year speak to him again, point these out and remind him of which of these could have been helped with a diagnosis.

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  • Martin has the right approach I think - pointing out that it is more of an exclusive club with incredible potential if harnessed should get his interest.

    Does he have any issues from his symptoms? If so, then point out that he can get help with these which will be very handy when he is making the most of that incredible brain power that many high functioning autists have.

    Remind him that is he is autistic then there is no need to disclose it if he is adamant, but it will give him the opportunity to learn more about it, how to live with it and make the most of his potential.

    Is he open to a bit of bribing to get the test done? It is probably worth it from your side I would think.

    If he remains against it then I would keep notes of the autistic behaviours you notice over time and in maybe a year speak to him again, point these out and remind him of which of these could have been helped with a diagnosis.

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