Published on 12, July, 2020
Hi.
I'm getting married in June and I think the anxiety is going to kill me. I suffer from horrific anxiety and it's causing me so much grief. I get physical pain from it and have been hospitalised twice because of the pain, really embarrassing but the doctors and nurses are always more than understanding. The wedding will be full of family, probably really loud. I'm terrified. My partner is so understanding. He's already offered to push the date back until I'm ready but I think this will always be a problem for me!
If you've been married how did you cope and get through the wedding? My brain is all over the place, so many thoughts and worries all the time. I only got 3hrs sleep last night and I've got work tomorrow. *sobs*
I'm worried about my dress as well. I've gone for a vintage one as I thought it looks gorgeous and it was cheaper than a lot of others I looked at. I'm worried my mum will disapprove of this.
So many worries, so much stress. I wish I could hibernate and forget life for a while.
Are you having a big wedding with lots of guests? Perhaps you could scale it down to something smaller and less intimidating? I would have hated a big wedding - so we only had 2 friends as witnesses and our parents were the only guests. We also had the wedding in a very rural location because we love the countryside - so the whole thing was very quiet and in a lovely, natural setting.
It’s your and your partners wedding so you have every right to have a wedding you can enjoy. The dress sounds great - your mother isn’t the one wearing it so frankly it’s not her opinion that matters most! If you love it then wear it! And if your boyfriend thinks delaying it might be a good option then maybe putting the date further off will help because you’ll have more time to work out how to make the wedding something you can enjoy rather than something that’s going to be hugely stressful for you.
anyway - good luck!