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Getting hugged without consent

Ash

How do you explain to people that you hate getting hugged? Hugs are socially regarded as a way to show affection and choosing not to engage in physical touches usually makes you appear cold and “disrespectful”. I’ve had this issue for a while now since I’ve tried setting boundaries multiple times before but they keep getting preached. Sometimes I just grit my teeth and let it happen but others it borders on being physically painful for me when I’m overstimulated and someone comes in for a hug.

I live in a society where mental illnesses aren’t really accepted so how do I explain hating getting hugged?

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  • Tell em you don’t like being hugged. If they don’t get the hint it’s their problem. I don’t like being hugged. My partners family are huggers and I’ve told em many times not to hug me or ask if they can hug, they brush it off and hug anyway. I too had to grit my teeth and let it happen. It’s uncomfortable. It’s more of a sensory thing for me

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  • Tell em you don’t like being hugged. If they don’t get the hint it’s their problem. I don’t like being hugged. My partners family are huggers and I’ve told em many times not to hug me or ask if they can hug, they brush it off and hug anyway. I too had to grit my teeth and let it happen. It’s uncomfortable. It’s more of a sensory thing for me

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