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Getting hugged without consent

Ash

How do you explain to people that you hate getting hugged? Hugs are socially regarded as a way to show affection and choosing not to engage in physical touches usually makes you appear cold and “disrespectful”. I’ve had this issue for a while now since I’ve tried setting boundaries multiple times before but they keep getting preached. Sometimes I just grit my teeth and let it happen but others it borders on being physically painful for me when I’m overstimulated and someone comes in for a hug.

I live in a society where mental illnesses aren’t really accepted so how do I explain hating getting hugged?

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  • A letter or text is the best way if you're uncomfortable telling someone. I did this with my mum, explained how uncomfortable being hugged and touched made me. She was more than understanding! Most people are when they've been told. After that instead of hugging my mum would draw a heart in the air with her finger and then blow it to me and I would catch it. She loved that and so did I. Unlike hugging it didn't put me in to an overload.

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  • A letter or text is the best way if you're uncomfortable telling someone. I did this with my mum, explained how uncomfortable being hugged and touched made me. She was more than understanding! Most people are when they've been told. After that instead of hugging my mum would draw a heart in the air with her finger and then blow it to me and I would catch it. She loved that and so did I. Unlike hugging it didn't put me in to an overload.

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