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Getting hugged without consent

Ash

How do you explain to people that you hate getting hugged? Hugs are socially regarded as a way to show affection and choosing not to engage in physical touches usually makes you appear cold and “disrespectful”. I’ve had this issue for a while now since I’ve tried setting boundaries multiple times before but they keep getting preached. Sometimes I just grit my teeth and let it happen but others it borders on being physically painful for me when I’m overstimulated and someone comes in for a hug.

I live in a society where mental illnesses aren’t really accepted so how do I explain hating getting hugged?

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  • Although I don't have any issues with giving or receiving hugs, there are occasions when I'm just not in the mood for hugging. In that situation, I tend to say something along the lines of, "It's nothing personal, but I would really prefer it if you didn't hug me." 

    Perhaps you could say something similar? If people were aware that being hugged can cause you physical pain, I'm sure they would understand, although you might need to remind them if they are someone that you don't see regularly.

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  • Although I don't have any issues with giving or receiving hugs, there are occasions when I'm just not in the mood for hugging. In that situation, I tend to say something along the lines of, "It's nothing personal, but I would really prefer it if you didn't hug me." 

    Perhaps you could say something similar? If people were aware that being hugged can cause you physical pain, I'm sure they would understand, although you might need to remind them if they are someone that you don't see regularly.

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