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School bullies

Helen

My 7 year old son goes to an all boys school. He’s high functioning autistic and up to now we’ve had few issues at school. He doesn’t have any firm friend but he’s ok. 
but since year 3 started 4 children are now being physical and verbally bullying to him. He’s then lashing out and pushing and hitting back. This is happening most days. 
I have a meeting with the school tomorrow. I know he’s doing it because he’s feeling threatened. The school say they can’t separate them in the playground. What else can I ask them to do to help him feel safe at school and prevent these outbursts?

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  • your son is doing the right thing by lashing back at them. that alone is probably going to limit and solve alot of the problems.

    i didnt lash back myself, so my problems got constantly prolonged. i wanted to stick to rules and the thought of getting told off made me sad so i never usually fought back which made it much much worse.... so your kids doing very good by fighting back and he shouldnt ever be told off for that but instead praised for it. never make fighting back a thing that he gets told off for as that would make him sad and could tie his hands and make it worse.

    send him to martial arts classes so that he can fight back even better and even the odds. that is the best way to help him... it will also open up new friends for him, give him a new hobby... and the training alone if it has physical exercise and body building into it will put the bullies off anyway without a fight as they see your kid becoming more assertive and confident and also more physical looking.

  • in reply to Caelus

    Thank you. He did try taekwondo but he was so fixed with the numbers counting the points he forgot to actually do any martial arts Joy

    He does a lot of dancing, not helpful with the bulking, but that’s his safe space. And so I’m hoping he’ll be a muscly ballerina when he’s older. 

  • in reply to Helen

    dancing is good...

    i did kung fu myself, and i ended up changing how i move through kung fu and people always commented i moved like a dancer lol

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