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School bullies

Helen

My 7 year old son goes to an all boys school. He’s high functioning autistic and up to now we’ve had few issues at school. He doesn’t have any firm friend but he’s ok. 
but since year 3 started 4 children are now being physical and verbally bullying to him. He’s then lashing out and pushing and hitting back. This is happening most days. 
I have a meeting with the school tomorrow. I know he’s doing it because he’s feeling threatened. The school say they can’t separate them in the playground. What else can I ask them to do to help him feel safe at school and prevent these outbursts?

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  • The school should be more proactive. They should be getting the bullies together with your son and talking through their behaviour, why they are doing what they are doing and what the consequences are for all concerned. The long-term outcomes for bullies are almost as bad as for the bullied. In the playground, it might be useful to ask your son to remain in the eyeline of the staff member on playground duty. This ought to cut down on the opportunity for unpleasant interactions.

  • in reply to Martin

    true... most of my bullies grew up to become druggies, drug dealers, criminals, murderers... most of them are in jail now. if teachers catch bullying they can perhaps change these bullies future from a life of jail to a productive normal life.

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  • in reply to Caelus

    One particular boy has a narcissist mum who is just awful so I can’t even talk to the parent. Staff have said they watch him but still things happen every day. 
    Tbey tried listening ear club with the bullies telling them about an invisible bubble around them they can’t get past. When they walked out the other boy got in his face and went ‘pop’.