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Help me !!!!!!

Mumoo

I am on my third glass of wine and in tears with frustration and stress, I have said horrible things to my 12 year old son ( who has Aspergers) I feel like the worst mum in the world and I feel so alone... He has been at secondary school for 3 weeks.. Has already been verbally abused  and picked on .. He comes home most days with something missing out of his bag.. Today someone has took all his pens and homework diary out of his bag whilst he was nit looking... And yet I am blaming him!!!!!....what is with me....the school are fantastic in trying to sort everything out and help him but I think it's me that needs help....

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  • I really feel for you, I struggle badly with Aspergers, depression, anxiety and stress, sometimes I can barely look after myself so how I would cope with a child too I simply don't know.

    I tend to be very hard on myself when I'm stuffing up at work and people tell me to go easy on myself - I'm sensing that maybe you need to do the same.  My therapist tells me to work on self compassion / self forgiveness although I'm not really sure what that means in practice.

    You can't be perfect and you are clearly coping with a lot.  I remember how difficult it was for my parents when I was a child.  It's also clear that you love your child.  In my book that makes you a good person in a difficult situation not a bad parent.

     

     

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  • I really feel for you, I struggle badly with Aspergers, depression, anxiety and stress, sometimes I can barely look after myself so how I would cope with a child too I simply don't know.

    I tend to be very hard on myself when I'm stuffing up at work and people tell me to go easy on myself - I'm sensing that maybe you need to do the same.  My therapist tells me to work on self compassion / self forgiveness although I'm not really sure what that means in practice.

    You can't be perfect and you are clearly coping with a lot.  I remember how difficult it was for my parents when I was a child.  It's also clear that you love your child.  In my book that makes you a good person in a difficult situation not a bad parent.

     

     

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